My DD is 3. She has never bitten, been spiteful or violent at all...until recently. Now she is not perfect by any means...she whinges a lot...is very demanding and likes things RIGHT NOW. But what 3 year old isn't like that.
I correct behaviour where I can, I encourage her to express her emotions so I can teach her how to deal with them in the best way possible.
In the last couple of weeks she has started hitting another child. Me and her Mum are friends so they play together a lot. It really concerns me as I really don't want to have a child who is spiteful so I discipline her as best I can and always make her apologise if she has hit out. I personally don't smack, neither does her Dad.
Her friend also hits and sometimes she will come to me and say my DD has hit her even though I've been watching them and I know she's lying (this girl is 6 months older which is quite a big difference at that age).
I really don't know how to deal with this. If I ask her (My DD) "Did you just hit X" she will say "Yes". If I ask why she says "because I did". I explain that you don't hit because it's not nice and make her say sorry, which she always does. I don't think she' physically developed enough to lie. I've spoken to the Mum and she seems to think it's all my DD's fault and she is starting it. I spoke to her nursery (they both go to the same one) as I was worried she'd been doing it to other children or she had it done to her. Her key worker was genuinely surprised and said she'd never done it there.
I really don't want to fall out with my friend over this, sorry not an AIBU, more a WWYD.