to think if your kid goes round pushing others about they should expect to be pushed back

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Firstly my child is far from perfect and does sometimes push other children without being provoked. Today at party child constantly pushing him about, he falls over a few times but generally just runs off and gets on with things. Eventually he retaliates (sp?) and pushes other child back who starts crying and runs off to tell mum. Much eye rolling that i haven't told him off for making other child cry.

Insancerre, my DS is 2 and occasionally pushes othet children. I do not slap him and he is not the product of a violent household! Each time he pushes he is told off and then removed if he continues. On occasions where he had been pushed himself I comfort him but make it clear it's not nice to be pushed. I would never encourage him to retaliate. Pushing is wrong and it's important to be consistent.

That's the thing, pushing, hitting and occasionally biting are all part of a two year olds learning curve, they grow out of it (of you don't buy them track suits and trainers as a reward?!)

Yes, that's normal behavior for 2 year olds
They do learn not to do it.
Its not normal behavior for 4 year olds.

I'm assuming bluebell us being sarcastic.
Op, yabu, 4 is too old to be pushing still.