not wanting exP to have a nap in my (our) bed....

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He left the end of march. He took DS swimming today & when he bought him back was upstairs a long time so i shouted up & he was having a nap. His aurgument was he bought the bed. AIBU to have the rage that he sees nothing wrong with this! - his other aurgument was that the house is half his.

Yes, he was wrong. But you need to sort out your financial affairs so he no longer believes the house is half-his.

He doesn't live there, so YANBU.

Change the locks if you haven't yet, and do not let him in again.

You will need to seek legal advice regarding the house, though, as you will need to have an agreement regarding it and how to split assets.

The house is half his - it's in both our names. We're going to sell once i the house I'm waiting to move into is ready.

He's saying now that he was not napping but sitting on the edge of the bed texting & me shouting up at him was an invastion of his privacy! On his bed in his house.

That really is not on. Total invasion of your privacy. Don't let him in your house if you can help it

He's still maintaining he's done nothing wrong & I'm being 'over the top'

Don't bother arguing now. Just make sure it won't happen again.

YADNBU! What an arse. Clearly you're well shot of him.

I'm waiting for someone to come along & say yabu. When u get told u r most of the time you start to believe it!

YABU for letting him in the house in the first place. He should have dropped DC off and left. End of.

Thanks Sybil! Yes well shot :-)

YANBU. I can't imagine why he would think it was ok.

He sounds like a wanker, but I'd bet my bottom dollar he's enjoying knowing that he's riled you and would do it again at the drop of a hat. How long till your new place is ready? Can you grit your teeth and make every interaction with him as factual and minimal as possible? I'm not advocating letting him take the piss you understand, but picking your battles are you are so close to winning the war and being out of there and engaging with him sounds like it will stress you out and be a source of entertainment for him.

What was he doing upstairs anyways? He can drop DS off at the door surely!

HeartsTrumpDiamonds Perhaps he'd gone to the bathroom to start with.

YANBU! The house might be half his, but its 100% your home, not his. So he can sod off.

He was snooping.....

Bet he was having a nosey around. I would be very tempted to saw the bed in half and leave one half on his doorstep in case he needs a nap.

Yes he was in the bathroom at first & i think he might have been snooping. My diary & mobile were next to the bed- not that I've got anything to hide!

He might have been marking his territory on your pillow.

You need to leave a condom wrapper on your bedside table or something, he wouldn't be so keen to jump into your bed then!