To be scared to start over at 31?

[kirsten123]

Hi everyone,

Sorry, I know this is not really AIBU but doesn't fit in any other forum!

I moved from Scotland to England when I got engaged in a long distance, whirlwind romance. Was fed up with my job up there and managed to rent out my flat to some friends. I got a job down here.
Predictably, the relationship didn't survive real life for more than a year (no DCs) and I've moved into a rented room here to finish the work contract. But my question is what now? Do I stay here because the work opportunities are probably better (SE England) or go back, live with my parents (!!!) til I get a job back home and then move back into my own flat? Or do I jack it all in and go travelling. I'd really like to do a job I don't hate (or even one I love!). I trust the tenants in my flat so in some ways this is the best opportunity I have - once I boot them out, I'll be loathe to rent it out again to people I don't know.
Should say contract won't be renewed and renting a room is a bit shit, obviously.

Any thoughts are most welcome!
Good luck to everyone else! Thanks!!

Sell the flat too - one less thing to worry about while you are away. Its tying you down to one location anyway when you get back.

You can live anywhere. I once left the UK for 3 months with DW and DS1 who was a baby and we had no house or possessions at all except what we had in our suitcases.

When we got back we got off the plane stood in the airport arrivals lounge and decided where we would like to live and got on the train to that place and lived in a hotel for a month, then lived in a holiday cottage and the owner looked after us because she thought we were quite mad - we had such a lovely summer.

I jacked it in and went travelling. Met my gorgeous DH afterwards so it all worked out swimmingly.

Fuck me love, if you're too old to do it then I may as well invest in some bootie heated slippers and a subscription to peoples friend....

You're not missing out on anything, when the times right to settle you will - happily. Sometimes you just need to see where the wind takes you.

If it's shit and doesn't make you happy then go to you're fall back plan, but if you've got an itch and no good reason not to give it a scratch, go for it.

*blames wine for peppering of platitudes

You've been given a chance to travel - go, go, go! Amazing, have the best time.

31 is old enough to be wise but young enough to have the time. The cliche about making yourself happy first is my most favourite and most true cliche.