To think this is disgraceful behaviour from nanny agency?

[grobagsforever]

Currently trying to recruit a nanny to help me out following loss of DH to cancer. Obviously I have been open with agencies/applicants as I need someone who is sensitive to situation. Agency rang me today to pitch a candidate, mentioning that this candidate had recovered from cancer herself in 2010. AIBU to think this a gross breach of confidentiality, not to mention inappropriate?

I'd like to meet with the candidate but I certainly don't want to pay this agency a penny! I haven't signed their contract or anything so I'm tempted just to message her directly and inform her of agency's behaviour.

[Blondeshavemorefun]

hmmm tricky, all depends if nanny had said to agency tell gb that i have had cancer, so you know she has an understanding

i think they meant well

tho also very diff someone having cancer and surviving and someone dying from cancer :(

you know my circumstances and one agency told the family that dh died recently before i went for an interview, tbh it was none of their business and i keep my personal life separate from professional - and i was furious, esp wjem family said sorry for your loss and i was put on the spot and mumbled thanks - what else could i say?

another agency sent me for a night nanny job to a mum who wasnt coping as sadly the husband committed suicide, obv the agency told me (with mums permission) a few details and i did say to the agency you can mention my history - so may be like that

also the nanny is unlikely to see you behind agencies back as 1) we sign something saying we wont 2) if they ever found out the agency would never have the nanny on their books again, so not worth their while iyswim

[Greythorne]

I am sorry for your loss but think the agency were trying to be helpful.

[Aeroflotgirl]

Yabvu mabey she was happy for this information to be disclosed!