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to think that teachers should dress appropriately

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moolady1977 · 27/06/2014 11:34

a teacher at my sons school teaching 5/6 yr olds is walking round with a dress that barely covers her bottom and 3-4 inch heels ,,, this isnt the first time though and im just wondering aibu , i just dont think she is dressed suitable for school and so many parents have already complained but nothing has been done about it

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LoonvanBoon · 27/06/2014 12:04

Is this in primary schools, Goblin? Because the only teachers I've EVER seen dressed like that - & I taught secondary for quite a few years - were PE teachers. Most male teachers wear jacket & tie at secondary.

There's more leeway for female teachers but the overwhelming majority dress appropriately IME. This one seems to be an exception! Grin

VisualiseAHorse · 27/06/2014 12:05

If it barely covers her arse from an adults point of view, surely small children will be able to see her knickers?

IscreamUscream · 27/06/2014 12:08

My ds teacher use to dress like she was going out clubbing. Very tight almost body con short dresses or very tight short skirts and low cut tops. Wholly inappropriate attire for a lady of her age infront at a primary prep school.
Our children had to be dressed at great cost in the uniform the least she could of done is afford to buy decent clothes that actually fitted her without the snug fit being on show.
A lot of the parents would have raised eyebrows yanbu. Maybe she was trying to relive her youth bless her!

BackforGood · 27/06/2014 12:08

It does sound inappropriate.
I would expect there to be an unspoken dress code in school. It would not include knicker flashing dresses nor shoes you can't walk in.

KirjavaTheCat · 27/06/2014 12:09

Is the HT a man or a woman...?

StephenManganiseverywhere · 27/06/2014 12:10

Cannot believe that so many people think 3-4inch heels are okay Confused.

I would be bothered far less by the short hemlines than this; as OP said, it's a safety thing: and here's just a little something to prove how sad I am. Occasionally if I am in a café where the window stops about at about waist height, while waiting for my order I divert myself by guessing whether people walking past are in flats or in heels, and if heels, roughly how high. I use the way in which they are walking/tottering/staggering/falling over as a gauge. If I get the chance I check if I'm right. Hours of fun. I'm getting quite good at it Grin

echt · 27/06/2014 12:12

"Lady of her age"????????

rubadubstylee · 27/06/2014 12:12

moolady
many parents have already complained but nothing has been done about it

Well just because people complain, it doesn't mean something HAS to be done. busybodies Parents have brought the matter to the school's attention as obviously everyone else at the school was blind and couldn't see the person wears short skirts and high heels and the school must have decided she wasn't in contravention of anything.

And yes, like other posters, I remember having a number of "glamourous" teachers Grin

echt · 27/06/2014 12:13

Why aren't 3-4 inch heels OK? Please explain.

HumphreyCobbler · 27/06/2014 12:13

heels are NOT ok at primary, there is a safety aspect to consider. Small children are constantly under your feet, you could do real damage if you trod on one in heels.

donnie · 27/06/2014 12:14

I believe it was Germaine Greer who christened them 'Fuck me shoes'. Grin. Maybe that's why Wink

echt · 27/06/2014 12:17

I can see it might apply on a common-sense level, but as a rule, no.

In addition, the OP did not cite this as a H&S matter, but appeared to see it as a bit..er... sexy. But seeing as the OP has not returned to clarify, we may never know.

StephenManganiseverywhere · 27/06/2014 12:19

But Echt I am just as puzzled as to how anyone could think 3-4 inch heels WERE okay in that environment. Please explain!

And Donnie yes I have heard that too. I think she was referring to a journalist at the time (though I honestly can't remember who! I must stress though that this is NOT my objection here Grin

WhereHas1999DissappearedToo · 27/06/2014 12:20

YANBU! DD who was in year 7 at the time, her science teacher's skirt went down and her jacket went up and the whole class saw her G-string! and this is a teacher in her early 40s, thank god it's a girl's only school.

glasgowstevenagain · 27/06/2014 12:21

My little sister had s teacher who wore short skirts and as it happens flesh coloured knickers, my sister was convinced Mrs x wore no knickers as d-sis cwould see up Mrs x's skirt at carpet time

That made me smile :)

Carpet time fnar fnar

Original poster
moolady1977 · 27/06/2014 12:21

yes this teacher is rather glamourous has a gorgeous figure and is really pretty , on a night out her outfit and heels wouldnt be a problem but she is teaching young kids she cant walk in her shoes never mind run she cant bend down without flashing her arse and i dont think its suitable or appropriate , thats my opinion

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StephenManganiseverywhere · 27/06/2014 12:22

In addition, the OP did not cite this as a H&S matter, but appeared to see it as a bit..er... sexy. But seeing as the OP has not returned to clarify, we may never know

But she DID Echt three or four minutes after the first post

see the heels wouldnt bother me as such if she could actually walk in them but she cant and i just think if she has to run after a child she really wont be able to do it

I will NOT say RTFT I won't I won't

rubadubstylee · 27/06/2014 12:24

3-4 inch heels is nothing! They're unlikely to be "true" stiletto heels at that height. I wear ones like this www.hlhhotsales.com/courtshoes-hush-puppies-ellen-grey-shoes-women-p-346/?zenid=601fcee1d9873e5bf19e3edeb65244b4 for work.

If there's a thick sole or platform as well then they're even more sturdy.

Just as an aside, my DS's teacher is in her 20s and is very petite - many of the children in her yr5 class are tall - she wears heels.

echt · 27/06/2014 12:25

Stephen the OP implied they weren't OK, as if the matter was an accepted norm, but it isn't. I await their explanation, because they posed the problem.

The journalist referred to so shamefully by Greer was Suzanne Moore

rubadubstylee · 27/06/2014 12:27

WhereHas1999DissappearedToo
YANBU! DD who was in year 7 at the time, her science teacher's skirt went down and her jacket went up and the whole class saw her G-string! and this is a teacher in her early 40s, thank god it's a girl's only school.

Well, yes, thank God indeed. Who knows what it might have led to!

echt · 27/06/2014 12:29

Fair point about the OP's post. I missed that.

I do not accept that it is any teacher's job to run after a child. Many of them do this. It is not their job.

StephenManganiseverywhere · 27/06/2014 12:29

Stephen the OP implied they weren't OK but then she clarified (which is precisely what you claimed she hadn't done!)

Yes I am not saying it was Greer's shining hour, either!

rubadubstylee · 27/06/2014 12:31

I think the "what if they had to run after a child" thing is a bit dubious to be honest. You could apply that to anything - fat people, old people...

echt · 27/06/2014 12:32

I think I have acknowledged my error, Stephen

StephenManganiseverywhere · 27/06/2014 12:36

and this is a teacher in her early 40s

How would it have been better/worse if she had been in her 20s/30s???

And back to my old mucker Echt: you haven't yet clarified why you think 3-4 inch heels are okay in that environment. And I take Rubabdubs point (though I am in late 50s and really quite rotund and can run very quickly!) but wearing heels which are optional on a day to day basis would only make it worse.

But don't listen to me: I swear by Checkers, Crocs and Hotters, so what do I know??