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AIBU?

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Yes, iabu. But this has given me the rage!

41 replies

Justfuckitupagain · 26/06/2014 10:42

So, I ordered something off amazon yesterday, and, it has just been delivered. Efficient? Yes, you may say so.

However, the delivery driver rocked up in a van with music absolutely blaring. I don't mean just loud - the windows were vibrating.

Now, we don't have kids, but my 2 six year old cats started to panic at the increased and somewhat unusual noise.

My lovely next door neighbour has a six month old baby, and she is really struggling at the moment getting him to sleep/settle. She and her DH are both exhausted.

Having stopped in the middle of the road (despite there being ample parking) he then left the door open - engine on and music still blaring. He approached the house (from NDN's side Hmm ) and stuck it through our letter box. He did look somewhat startled when I opened the door though.

The conversation went something like this:

Me: thank you for delivering this. However would you mind being a little more considerate and turning your music down? There are children in this area and there is no doubt that you will be disturbing them

DM: but it's morning! It's fine!

Me: yes, and it's a lovely one. But I'm sure that six month old babies don't particularly care what time of day it is.

DM: (looking a little shocked) erm, ok then.....(gets into van and turns music down - waits for yet another couple of minutes with cars backed up behind him)

Is it me or was this bloke an inconsiderate tosser? Confused

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Itsfab · 26/06/2014 14:40

OP, you are meant to be grateful he wasn't rude to you or told you to fuck off Hmm.

coffeeinbed · 26/06/2014 14:50

Complete and utter tosser.

I can't for the life of me understand how someone can concentrate on driving with the music blaring like that.

YANBU.

WineSpider · 26/06/2014 15:01

Sorry OP - got side tracked with my own amazon man moan.

Yanbu - I loathe unnecessary and inconsiderate noise. Music blaring from cars, shouty neighbours, people having full volume conversations in cinemas, yapping dogs with no off switch. It just says 'fuck you' to everyone else in range.

And my tolerance has gone up since I had my very "chatty" DD.

Stopmithering · 26/06/2014 15:10

I know where you are coming from, OP.
I think times have changed - just look at the amount of posters here who would not be bothered by this!
We have come to accept somehow that it is OK to behave inconsiderately towards each other.
I'm sure the chap in the van wasn't intentionally trying to irritate, but he clearly hadn't thought that his actions might have an affect on others.
I find that sad.

Peanut14 · 26/06/2014 15:30

YANU. Seriously - your cat!! It was 10.30 not 7.30am. As for your neighbour with the baby, life goes on around. And I say this with a 12 week old baby, 2 cats and 2 dogs.

ConfusedDotty · 26/06/2014 15:32

Ring 101 and get the poor fella sacked.

Beeyump · 26/06/2014 15:37

OP, did this really trip off your tongue?
''thank you for delivering this. However would you mind being a little more considerate and turning your music down? There are children in this area and there is no doubt that you will be disturbing them.''

RESPECT. Grin

Justfuckitupagain · 26/06/2014 15:37

I'm sure life doesn't just stop because someone has a baby, it's just that I saw her yesterday and she looked at the end of her rope. Feel really bad for her Sad

I know IABVU (I put the bit about the cats in the OP in a lame attempt at humour) but it just irritated me at the time.....

Wine that is truly shocking Shock

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mumofthemonsters808 · 26/06/2014 15:39

The delivery man was just getting through his day by listening to a few tunes. If it was taxi driver at 4am I'd say you were in the right, but it was 10am. He was very courteous to have switched the sound down I would have laughed in your face and drove off. No idea about how traumatic this was for the cats, I don't know enough about them. But surely it would not cause post traumatic stress disorder for them to hear loud music. As for the baby, in my experience the best thing you can do is get your baby used to sleeping through noise. Yes, it's inconvenient if something wakes them up, especially when they have taken ages to get off. But no everyone has to bow to your baby routine.

Justfuckitupagain · 26/06/2014 15:40

'fraid so Bee Blush

I have form Blush

Once involved with a bit of a disagreement with our home insurance company as my foot went through the dining room floor and retorted one is not a heffer" Blush

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Justfuckitupagain · 26/06/2014 15:42

Ah, now you see I don't have kids. I haven't got the first idea about routines and crying and sleeping through noise and all the rest of it.

But I do know that my NDN is knackered......

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diddl · 26/06/2014 15:42

Well I don't think that yabu OP.

I'm sure no one begrudges him listening to music.

As long as he's not forcing anyone else to!

hoobypickypicky · 26/06/2014 17:15

Oh god forbid that the poor man, probably on a low wage, with hours of getting stuck in traffic on a warm day ahead of him and almost certainly more than one awkward customer to deal with that day, should cause someone to be offended on someone else's behalf by playing a bit of loud music during mid morning! Especially for all of the few minutes it must have taken him to deliver the parcel, you to deliver the lecture and him to complete his paperwork. How dare he!

Tell him to turn it off and sit in silence for the rest of the day. That'll teach him. Hmm

So, YABU. But you know that already, dontcha?! Grin

Justfuckitupagain · 26/06/2014 17:28

But of course! Poor man had to get on and do his job, so naturally anything that could potentially make his life easier and btw fuck other people as they don't matter just had to be done......

So if I have to put up with stroppy patients all day, it's perfectly fine for me to walk around a hospital with some new fandangled music thingy in my hand just because I have a hard job to do and that would make it easier?

I jest of course, but you get my point. I just don't understand inconsiderate people (fully aware that by posting I may be deemed to be inconsiderate but I am a fan of irony)

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FatalCabbage · 26/06/2014 17:45

Music that loud means driving without due care, doesn't it? If it's loud enough to be heard inside buildings if windows are closed.

If you were polite and he was polite then no harm done. And if your NDN overheard you then she'll feel supported which matters hugely during sleep torture deprivation.

FatalCabbage · 26/06/2014 17:45

Music that loud means driving without due care, doesn't it? If it's loud enough to be heard inside buildings if windows are closed.

If you were polite and he was polite then no harm done. And if your NDN overheard you then she'll feel supported which matters hugely during sleep torture deprivation.

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