To be really pissed off with DP and have no sympathy whatsoever.

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My DP received a "letter of expectation" last week about the performance of his department. In this letter there were several items that needed resolving immediately.

I drafted a letter for him addressing each point raised and how he was going tackle the problems within his department and indicating where he would need support from the rest of the senior management team. (English is not his first language which is why I drafted it for him).

He has done bugger all to rectify any of the issues raised didn't give his direct manager the letter and now faces disciplinary action. This all could have been prevented.

What I'm most annoyed about is his attitude he is acting as if he is being treated really badly and has a very "how dare they do this" mentality.

WIBU to tell him this is his own fault he was given the chance to sort out and didn't and that as far as I am concerned he totally deserves to have action taken against him.

So as not to drip feed all the issues raised were very easy to rectify he just couldn't be arsed.

YANBU.

YANBU! Totally not your problem, and I would also have no sympathy as it sounds like he has been treated fairly by his work.

Yanbu

NU... not at all.

YANBU

Sounds like your DH is out of his depth in this job and wants a way out.

Does he usually exhibit this level of irresponsibility in other areas, if I was you I leave him to sort out his own work problems and stop drafting letters for him. If his English isn't that good then it's up to him to sort it out and improve. BTW are you able to deal with the financial blow if he is eventually sacked, how will he explain a gap in his CV if it's gross dismissal for him.

Thank you I was worried I was being a bit heartless, no one wants someone they love to be having difficulties at work but given these are of his own making I just have no sympathy.

My xh had similar and I was always encouraging him and helping etc

One month after I left him he got sacked as he just wasn't up to the job, and I had no respect left for him.

You might want to rethink helping him

X post Baking.

Its not a case of him being out of his depth, the department at his old company was a lot larger and significantly more demanding. which is why I'm so annoyed.

He is fluent in english written as well as spoken, its just my turn of phrase is better and I have a wider vocabulary than him and he can often come off as far too blunt or things sound over simplified. However no I will not be doing anything else to help as its not utilised and is a waste of time.

Yes we will cope if he is sacked and given the industry he works in I doubt he would be out of work for a significant period of time.

Why are you helping him in the first place? He's gotten and kept his job on his own merits, he can continue to keep it on them if he so chooses.

If he didn't understand the gravity of this "letter of expectation" when he received it he surely does now.

Under the circs, I'd have no sympathy either. Here's hoping he will find alternative employment after this, I hope he's looking for it now.

'My DP received a "letter of expectation" last week about the performance of his department. In this letter there were several items that needed resolving immediately'

Has he already had the first stage of a disciplinary procedure and not told you? A letter like this would commonly be the result of a first disciplinary meeting. I've produced them for people myself.

He needs to get a grip and stop whining about being treated unfairly. If he won't accept the firm has valid reasons for this, well, maybe it's true and he should go in with actual hard facts and figures for the disciplinary meeting to prove this (eg he is meeting his targets, other people with same performance levels are not being disciplined, he failed to meet target because his PC broke and the IT support didn't supply him with a new one for a week, whatever the truth is). If he can't come up with actual facts, whining and denying is going to be the worst response. He'll also need to explain why he took no action after the first letter.

It does sound rather to me as if he wants to leave. But getting sacked and having a disciplinary on your reference isn't a great way to find a new job.