To be dreading possible sports day appearance

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Maybe I am over thinking this but it's ds sports day tomorrow and I'm scared that ex may turn up making it an uncomfortable situation for ds and me. At the Moment there is a non molestation order saying he must not approach our house, a prohibited steps order and a court order saying no further contact for ds due to his convicted violence.
He is the sort to not listen to authority as he thinks rules and the law don't apply to him. Tomorrow I will be looking over shoulder I'm dreading it.

Does he know when it is? Do the school know he's not allowed access to your DS?

If they don't already know, tell the school in advance. That way, if he turns up, they already know there are issues and should then act quickly.

I think he will know as the school send him the school news letter by email. Not through my choice but the Heads. He has pr so is entitled to school reports.
They are aware of the situation court prohibited steps order. But like I say he has no regard for rules or the law and thinks he is above it. I just want to avoid any potential scene at the school should he appear as it would be embrassiing for ds.

Can you surround yourself with other parents the whole time? Stick near a large group at all times or even volunteer to serve cakes?

I suppose that could be possible, not ideal as I want to enjoy watching ds without feeling uncomfortable.

How secure is the school site? If it's like ours and all the parents need to go through reception to be allowed into school, then I would speak to them tonight, give school staff a photo of him, and reiterate that if he appears they are to phone the police. And then you can relax and watch DS knowing that there is no way ex can get to you as he'll be stopped at the door.

We have had to do similar in the past. I think that, to avoid a scene, the head has pounced on the parent and called them into their office for a made up reason (eg to discuss child's progress), meanwhile reception staff phone the police, so any confrontation happens in the head's office rather than in public areas.