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Scared to post this parking.

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Imsuchamess · 25/06/2014 10:00

I am perfectly willing to be told I am being unreasonable but please do so gently I am recovering from a psychotic episode and I am delicate. Normally I wouldn't post when I feel like this but I really need to know if I am being unreasonable.

I live on a main high street there is no parking. I am on low rate mobility as is my eldest child and I am currently attempting to get high rate mobility for my middle dd. I also have a baby. I often end up carrying both my two year old and 5 year old from the car to the house.

The only place to park are residential streets. There is no where else. So I park in the street behind my house in a perfectly legal place. I know one car there has a blue badge so I never park in that space.

However I have been verbally attacked by two different residents for parking outside their house they were aggressively shouting at me while I was trying to get my two disabled dc In the car and my two year old.

Today I have had a note put on my car saying I am very inconsiderate for parking outside someone's house and that they now have to park halfway down the street (it's a small street) and that it's inconvenient for them as they have 5 children to drag up the street.

Please be gentle.

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Badvoc2 · 25/06/2014 15:44

Just had some twat neighbour of my mums drive into my car trying to get as close to my bumper as Humanly possible - backfired for him because he actually hit my car and it's currently at the garage being repaired.
He has been reported to the police (phone 101) and had lost his no claims.
Also report to the council anti social behaviour dept (as I have)
This is not acceptable.

Badvoc2 · 25/06/2014 15:45

You pay your car tax, yes?
Therefore you can park on any public highway.
You shouldn't have to put up with this.

diaimchlo · 25/06/2014 17:06

I too am in a very similar situation. I live in a block of flats with parking on the road. The man who lives below seems to think it is his God given right to park his van directly in front of his flat as does his partner with her car.

The other day I parked up after shopping with my 2 DGDs and before I turned my engine off he had come round the corner and parked right up to my bumper. the back half of his van was over the junction line so he was obstructing the other road as well. I got out of my car and said I needed to get into my boot to be met with foul language, slanderous remarks etc. I got the DGD's into my flat and in a state phoned 101, whilst on hold waiting for an answer he went back out with his partner's keys and reversed her car right up to my front bumper, completely blocking my car in.

I was still on hold to 101 20 mins later but saw a community copper across the road and went to speak to him, whilst we were talking he came out and got in his van and again gave another attack of verbal abuse, which was noted down by the PCSO.

I have lodged a report to the Police now and am pushing for action from the council as well as these are council owned flats.

So OP you are completely in the right and keep fighting it we can not let the Bs win.

ScarlettDragon · 25/06/2014 17:58

I'd leave a note on your windscreen the next time you park saying, "You may well have 5 children, I have 2 disabled children and a baby, I myself am also disabled. One does not trump the other. Last time I checked this street didn't have restricted parking, until it does I'll park wherever the hell I like!"

Cheeky fuckers!

TestingTestingWonTooFree · 25/06/2014 19:14

YANBU OP.

PIP rules won't apply to OP's daughter if she's a child. Might be worth asking the council about disabled spaces if she gets HRM but they can be used by anyone with a blue badge so there's no guarantee it'll be available.

TiggyD · 25/06/2014 19:54

YANBU and have my permission to kill the people who complain about it.

Boomerwang · 25/06/2014 19:59

I've seen disabled spaces painted onto roads outside people's houses in Birmingham. Can you get one?

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Imsuchamess · 25/06/2014 20:40

Thanks all I will complain. There is no way they would make a disabled space in front of my house as it is on a very busy road. But I will complain thank you.

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Imsuchamess · 25/06/2014 20:42

Oh and I am taxed not and insured so perfectly legal.

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Imsuchamess · 25/06/2014 20:42

Mot instead of not.

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Ilovemydogandmydoglovesme · 25/06/2014 21:20

We get this from a lady that lives near our primary school. I once parked, legally, on the road near the school as I was in a rush. There is a school car park but you can stop outside in the lane, it doesn't get blocked or very busy. No lines or blocking anyone in, it was a pull in to a field, so loads of room on the lane but it was directly across from her house.

She came rushing out and told me to move as she was expecting tradesmen in a lorry and they wouldn't be able to park. I was about thirty seconds in the gate and out again. They hadn't arrived in all that time but if they had they'd have had room to pull into her driveway.

Then whenever I saw her she'd run on all PA about people parking outside her house. Knowing full well I did it once. So I said to her 'but legally it is a public road and legally you have no right to it'. Now she flounces whenever she sees me and doesn't talk to me. Result. Grin

manicinsomniac · 25/06/2014 22:14

YANBU

I think it's nice to leave people their 'own' space outside their house but if it can't be done it can't be done. If you are legally allowed to park there then that's all that matters.

It's nice of you to leave the space that you know the blue badge user uses. You don't have to do that. The idiots who are having a go at you would be a lot nicer if they appreciated your disability meant you had a better need for the space.

The people in the house opposite me have a hand painted sign outside their house saying 'please don't park here - needed by a wheelchair user'. I wouldn't use the space because that would be unkind - but I would be perfectly within my rights to ignore their sign, it isn't a legal requirement.

maddening · 25/06/2014 22:23

It would be sweet if you got the higher rate of disability and were able to request a disabled parking space and it was situated there :)

They anbu to feel disgruntled but to approach you regarding it they Abu and more so for their behaviour.

weneedtotalkaboutmusic · 25/06/2014 22:37

Write a polite note: "hi, just to reassure you, I am a resident here and this the nearest legal parking to my house. Thanks OP"

Keep it unprovocative: don't risk a relapse by getting ibto a dispute
Xx

CumberCookie · 25/06/2014 22:42

As someone else has said - report to 101. This is harassment. Nobody should have to put up with that.

Loletta · 25/06/2014 22:46

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BanjoKazooie · 25/06/2014 23:19

They are being very unreasonable. Keep notes and take photos but try not to get into rows with them if you can. They are clearly unpleasant.

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Imsuchamess · 26/06/2014 09:26

Oh great parked in a different spot today as usual one was full. Lady came out told me "I best move as he will be back soon"
I was in a bad mood and said "that's his problem"
At which point her husband came out told me "I'll fucking move it myself"
I said if you approach me about this again I'll call the police for harassment"
He then called me a "fucking foreign bitch" I'm uk but that's beside the point I kept walking. Then lady said "you don't even live here so why don't you park on the opposite side of the road"
I said "because I'll get a ticket" (you have to park two wheels on the curb).
I was quite a way down the road by now and couldn't hear what she was shouting at me so I just continued to walk.

I'm going to come back to a damaged car arnt I?

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Imsuchamess · 26/06/2014 09:28

Oh and there was a space right behind my car.

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OwlCapone · 26/06/2014 09:30

I would report it to the police now as a threat.

TheresLotsOfFarmyardAnimals · 26/06/2014 09:34

Our neighbours do this, it annoys be and we are all able bodied. I just politely tell them that it is public parking, no residential permits are in place.

I'd like to tell them that they should have bought a modern house with a driveway rather than a victorian house with on road parking if they want that convenience, but I don't want to get into it.

Picturesinthefirelight · 26/06/2014 09:50

Definatly report to the police.

I had a resident threaten me once when I parked in the street where I work saying it was for residents only. I phoned the council who assured me that any member if the public could park there as long as it wasn't on the white lines by the sowed hump. The residents had voted against resident parking & furthermore if they had voted for my bosses as owners of business premises in the street we would be entitled to 3 passes anyway

I did have to go out & put a note on a car the other week though at the school where I run drama classes on Saturdays I park in the playground to load & unload (I have permission) & someone who plays football on the girls had parked in front of the school playground gates completely blocking all access (the Headteacher said that there must always be vehicular access into the playground in case if emergency ambulance etc)

Totally inconsiderate.

Football parents also often park in the disabled space without a blue badge causing difficulties for the parent in a wheelchair who does have a blue badge

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Imsuchamess · 26/06/2014 10:09

Thanks all I have reported to the police.

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TravelinColour · 26/06/2014 10:22

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Littledidsheknow · 26/06/2014 10:26

You've had good advice from the MNers here and I'm glad you've now called the police, OP, so I can't add much that's helpful, but I do recall a friend of mine telling how he'd been shouted at for parking (legally) in the street outside someone's house. He shouted back "Actually, I have a permit" when the aggressor asked what sort, my friend said "THIS!" pointing at his tax disc.
I will use this 1st defence myself in such a situation.