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To feel sorry for this man's DIL?

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NunsArePeopleTooDougal · 24/06/2014 21:14

I have just had the "pleasure" of going out for a meal with a group of my mother's friends, and I got stuck talking to this man, who my mother hates, but invited because he is part of this "group".
I now see why she wanted me there as back up, because it meant she didn't have to listen to his disgusting rants all evening.
He randomly started moaning about baby names to me, not that I have any reason to think about baby names, so it was a bit weird. It turns out that
"All the first born men in my family have been called Alexander, we had Alexander Joseph, Michael Alexander and I'm Alexander David. But then my son's wife, who is awful, wouldn't even consider the names Alexander or Alexandra, and my granddaughter is called bloody Sophia! It has nothing to do with the family, it's terrible, and I won't call her it. DIL has made it very clear there won't be any more grandchildren, and I hate her."

At this point, I was incredulous, and was just nodding and trying to think of how to shut him up. But no, there was more...

"Of course, there could be more grandchildren if my son found a new wife, which he could very easily, he's a good looking man, and I have no idea why he lowered himself to marrying that trollop. She's ghastly and I hate her."

Yes, I know you hate your DIL, you've made that very clear, despite me never mentioning anything about the subject. At this point I ask
"Have you told her this?" (Fearing his response TBH)

"Oh yes, I've told her she's no good for my son, and she knows I hate her. I've told her I'm holding out for a big busty blonde, so DS can remarry and I'll have a grandchild with a proper name (Alexander or Alexandra)."

He then went on...

"Of course, you can't choose your child's spouse, no matter how hard you try. Unless you're in Pakistan that is. I wish we were in Pakistan. Then I could tell him he's marrying a proper woman, and they'd respect my choice of name for the baby. He wouldn't have married that hussy over there, oh no."

So now I understand why my DM hates the man! He then started talking about the pool he's having installed in his garden, along with his new decking, and how he thinks that we should have the same laws about employment rights for immigrants as the UAE, because "they've got it right there", so I just zoned out.

Sorry for the long rant, it feels good to have got it off my chest!

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NunsArePeopleTooDougal · 24/06/2014 21:15

*Names changed to protect the innocent.

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Finola1step · 24/06/2014 21:17

Poor, poor woman - his DIL.

I hope her dh doesn't put up with this crap.

Fairy13 · 24/06/2014 21:18

I like to bait this category of person for sport.

YANBU. Obviously.

Justfuckitupagain · 24/06/2014 21:20

Jesus wept......

TheFairyCaravan · 24/06/2014 21:22

Dear god! Shock

I bet his DIL hates him more!

DizzyKipper · 24/06/2014 21:22

Gah YANBU, he sounds horrible. This reminds me of FIL (though I'm not suggesting he is horrible like this!). DH's side has a naming tradition as well, since FIL's GD each generation has had the names X and Y either as first or middle names and FIL has always spoken with the presumption that X and Y will be my son's middle names (should I have a son). Me and DH OTOH have already decided that should we have a boy his middle names will be after my father (a great man who passed away too soon). If we go ahead and do this I know FIL will be bitter, though I've no idea whether he'll actually say anything or not and I'd hope he wouldn't be as rude and nasty as the man you were talking to.

NunsArePeopleTooDougal · 24/06/2014 21:22

He must read the Daily Mail, I can't see where else he could get his fucked up views from.
I don't know his son, I hope he stands up to his knobhead of a father as well.

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iklboo · 24/06/2014 21:28

YANBU. He sounds awful!

'Oh! If I was your DIL I would love to name my child after you. But I think they'd get terribly teased at school if they were called Stupid Cunt'.

taxi4ballet · 24/06/2014 21:31

So - he wasn't there with his wife then?

Can't imagine why...

NunsArePeopleTooDougal · 24/06/2014 21:34

Taxi4, his wife was there, just sitting somewhere else on the table. According to DM she's just as bad, apparently she's nicknamed "the poisonous dwarf", so I wouldn't expect any better from her.

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Ohwhatfuckeryisthis · 24/06/2014 21:38

Bet dil is on here. Come out, come out, wherever you are.

Hissy · 24/06/2014 21:44

Wonders when the DIL will pitch up and recognise her FIL.

:)

NunsArePeopleTooDougal · 24/06/2014 21:44

Ohwhat, she's probably got far worse stories than this one!

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Objection · 24/06/2014 21:46

Bahaha at "the poisonous dwarf"

NunsArePeopleTooDougal · 24/06/2014 21:49

Yes, I never realised just how bad either of them were, but she seemed pretty vile, from the snippets of conversation I overheard from her end of the table!

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EmptyNestAgain · 24/06/2014 21:49

Grin at iklboo!
YANBU, obviously.
I hope his DIL doesn't have the same problem with her DH. Poor woman.

NunsArePeopleTooDougal · 24/06/2014 21:59

Ooh, I wonder if the DIL is on here? Grin

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EmptyNestAgain · 24/06/2014 22:00

Well, if she is she's bound to recognise him, isn't she? And the MIL, who also sounds dire.
Come on DIL, you know you want to.........

TaliZorahVasNormandy · 24/06/2014 22:25

Jesus wept!! I bet the DIL is counting down the days those two vile bastards kick the bucket. She'd probably dance on their grave.

NunsArePeopleTooDougal · 24/06/2014 22:30

Tali, I was counting down the minutes until I could leave, I can't imagine how awful it must be to have to put up with it daily!

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HibiscusIsland · 24/06/2014 22:33

Hussy? Never heard anyone use that word seriously before. It's the sort of thing I'd call my friends as a joke!

NunsArePeopleTooDougal · 24/06/2014 22:35

Dictionary definition of hussy is "an impudent or immoral girl or woman". I reckon he was serious, he seemed to just spout any vile insult he could think of about the poor woman. Sad

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zipzap · 24/06/2014 23:18

I'm just Shock that you managed to nod and and zone out - I'd have wanted to explain exactly how wrong he was Grin

FishWithABicycle · 24/06/2014 23:21

YANBU and neither is this man's DIL. If I had a FIL like that there is no way on earth that I would name any child of mine according to his preferences or traditions!

EmptyNestAgain · 24/06/2014 23:33

The man is clearly a knob!
If I was the DIL I would tell him why I wouldn't name any children according to his wishes, too.

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