AIBU to find next door's children sitting on my back garden wall intrusive?

[Twiceover]

DDs are friends with the children next door, especially their DD who is in the same year as them at school. After school they quite often go into the garden and chat to next door's kids. Next door's kids sit on our shared wall. Now whenever we go into the garden, the kids appear and sit on the wall. Their mum doesn't allow them to come into our garden (without asking first!) but seems happy for them to sit on the wall.

I feel like I can't relax in my own garden without one of them peering in to see what is going on. AIBU to find this quite intrusive? On the one hand it's nice that the kids can chat and play together but on the other hand, I'd quite like some privacy in my garden. They are small gardens attached to terraced houses so it's never going to be massively private but it's quite hard to relax knowing two little faces might appear at any minute.

I don't think I will say anything as our kids are good friends but it's really starting to get on my nerves. What does everyone else think? Would you be ok with this and enjoy your children having friends next door to play with? Or would you find it a bit much?

It's a shared wall. YABU.

Meh. Can't see the problem. YAB a bit U.

I think when kids become friends with the ndn kids then this sort of thing will happen. Not much you can do about it, but it is irritating though.

I think you have to tow the middle line. I have a similar situation and when its fine ie dc are in garden too and wsnt to play then great. If I am sunbathing on my own or we're eating outside etc I say in a calm cheerful but firm voice 'off you go now you two we're busy/dont need an audience etc' 99% of kids will move if you adopt a teacher voice. It isfabulous for kids to have ffriends next door but you can always say no about anything. Kids come to call and I often say they're only allowed in the garden because I cant be bothered with kids in the house or I just say no sorry if I don't want them anywhere!

I can sympathise. We can't use our garden at all without next door appearing (both children and parent) wanting to chat. The children are always hanging over the fence shouting for DS - I find this particularly intrusive when we're trying to eat dinner as they can peer right in! Short of moving to a detached property with a boundary far from the house I'm not sure anything can be done though.

How old are all the kids?

Do your kids sit on the wall ever OP? If so put a stop to it. They can say to the neighbor's kids that they're not allowed on the wall. Might help?

Is there anything you can put on the wall? Plant pots? Bit of trellis?

My DDs are 5 as is girl next door. Her brother is 7. Wall is adult shoulder height so they wouldn't be able to see over if they weren't sitting on it.

My DDs aren't allowed to sit on the wall.

I guess it is all just part and parcel of living in a terrace and I should be pleased to have nice neighbours.

My mum's garden has two gardens that are joined to hers, one at the end of her garden and one at the left. Both these gardens have children living there and both gardens have 6ft fences. The kids pile things up to stand on and lean over mum's garden to shout for the other kids to come out. I stayed with her for 2 weeks and it drove me up the wall!!

Put a trellis on it.

Trellis, or if you are especially mean, anti climb paint and pretend there have been a lot of burglaries locally...

I used to have a similar problem until I accidently on purpose spilt something very very sticky along the entire length of the wall.

yabu that is all

Just put up some trellis. I have to say though...it's a very nice thing to have friendly DC next door. We don't and my DC would love that

As it's a shared wall yabu, but I have to say that would bug me