to wish DH and DS would get home?!

[CheerfulYank]

Argh! DH has form for this and it makes me soooooo angry every time. So tell me, wise Mumsnetters, AIBU?

Here's the situation. DH coaches DS's baseball team. (DS will be 7 next month.) We were all (DH, DS, 13 month old DD, and me) at baseball practice this evening.

When it was over, DS wanted to go say hi to his friend "and go to his house to jump on his trampoline". I said "you can go say hi but you can't go to his house; you've had a long day and have swimming really early tomorrow and need to get to bed soon." So I told DH that I'd take DD home and get her ready for bed and that he and DS could go say hi to DS's friend and then come home. (We're just a few block from the baseball field so we'd all walked there.)

Well. That was two hours and 45 minutes ago. Where the actual fuck are they?!

DH and I have one working phone between us right now and he's got it. He's done this a few times before because he "loses track of time." I could honestly kill him. I know nothing bad could have happened but WHERE are they? And DS won't get to bed til after 10 now (am 6 hours behind the UK) and he has to get up and then be at swimming (to which we will walk a mile) at 7:55.

AIBU to want to screech at DH?!

Don't they have a house phone you could call.

And no you are not unreasonable.

I don't have a phone Happy.

They finally came home. They'd gone to the friend's house, where the dad was bbqing, had dinner (which they'd already had, before baseball) set off fire crackers, and then DH had gotten into a discussion w/the neighbor about their trees that need to come down, apparently.

I'm livid.

Well yes it would irritate me but livids a bit strong.

You both need to buy cheap mobiles and make sure he keeps it on.

Does your ds have to go swimming so early tomorrow? Maybe you could have a more relaxing day.

Does your ds have to go swimming so early tomorrow? Maybe you could have a more relaxing day.

That's not really the right approach I don't think.

No need to be cross OP, just point out to Ds that you don't want to hear any moaning about being tired when he has to get up for swimming. And maybe get DH to take DS to swimming so you don't have to if that is possible.

Take it he's training rather than splashing about in a pool.

Anyway, don't get the angst. You knew exactly where they were. At said friends. Sounds to me more fomo and having to be right. Be irritated but livid? Chill a bit.

Well I'm guessing that they are at friend's house on the trampoline!

Do you think that your son lied to your husband & said that it was OK?

Even so your husband should have made sure that it didn't go on for too long.

Your reaction is waaaaay over the top.

Minnie no, I didn't know that. Because I'd said to DS "you can't go to X's house because you have swimming in the morning" and DH had repeated it to him, saying "you can't play with X tonight".

Said friend was also at baseball practice in the other field, so they didn't have to go to his house to say hi to him. So I wasn't positive that's where they were.

According to DH he'd heard me say "you can't go to X's" but assumed that it would be fine if they went there but didn't stay? Which they did anyway because he didn't realize what time it was apparently.

It's not the biggest deal certainly. I think what makes me angry is that last time this happened I really did have no idea where they were (I was pregnant and had fallen asleep and woke up to them gone), DH wasn't answering his phone, etc. By the time they showed up it was close to midnight and I was hormonal starting to get really worried. I asked him to be more careful after that and he'd said he would.

Gertrude you're probably right. :) I didn't yell or anything. He apologized and it's fine, I just hate not knowing where they are and I hate when DH doesn't pay attention and then says something about losing track of time.