AIBU to be cross with hospitals treatment of my DM today

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My DM had to have a heart scan and ecg today. She is not very mobile, walks with a stick and takes a while to get dressed and undressed.

We were seen promptly, taken into the room and a female member of staff had to be told to address my DM and not me. I know that is something that really annoys my DM, but I let it go. DM was asked to undress, top half only and lie on bed. She was not offered a blanket, gown or anything to cover herself which I found really odd, but again I let it go.

A male member of staff then came in to do the ecg, again fine, no problems. While he was still performing the procedure another male just walked into the room, did not even knock asking how long we would be. I was getting pretty iriate at this point, but my DM doesn't like me to complain so kept my mouth shut.

When we were finished the guy doing the ecg did not tell her she could get dressed, or help her down from the bed. I put her vest on and then asked for help to lower the bed. The guy who wanted to know how long we were going to be lowered the bed, then stayed in the room messing with the equipment while I helped my mum to continue getting dressed. He was getting quite antsy as we were not moving fast enough because he said he needed to get a bed in there. I wanted to tell him to fuck off, but kept my temper.

I really do feel my DM was treated like that because she is elderly, I am sure I would not have been treated in such a way, but the again I would have been quicker.

It didn't seem like that to be fair we were happily chatting away I think he probably judged it would be received ok, even so will be interesting to see if I see him, past being shy now with all that

Think the nurse was just making convo incase I was nervous, I was having urodynamic tests so had a catheter put in all 3 holes, felt like a human extension lead walking around :)

Sigh - is it just on MN that people spectacularly misread posts? Of course OP didn't swear. She said she wanted to tell him to fuck off but kept her temper. I replied that one doesn't have to start swearing (eg to get what you want).

I felt from the OP's post that she sounded quite fiery which is why I made the point that there are ways of complaining without being fiery. Am I right, OP? Apologies if not. But I think you could have said something and, indeed, that you should still complain.

Lauren, you have my sympathy! I had urodynamic tests over 10 years ago, and though I'm pretty hardened to having things done to me, that was the pits. The two nurses were so vile to me that I left there mildly traumatised. In fact, when it was suggested I might have urodynamics done again last year, even though I now live 150 miles away so it's a different hospital and different nurses, I burst into tears!