To wish DDs friends' parents would stop having parties at this venue?

[MrsWinnibago]

It's a softplay place. It's 7 miles from our village (where everyone lives) and it's nasty!

It's cheap for after school parties...£100 for a whole class. It STINKS to high heaven and is dirty.

The loos are a no go zone and the parents who visit with their DC (not at parties) are often swearing and aggressive. The last one I went to with DD was awful. A child ran into another smaller child by accident and then looked at the Dad and said "Oh sorry!" and stopped and the Dad ROARED "Well don't say sorry to ME!!! Say sorry to HER!!"

They weren't with the party but still...quite awful to see.

There is a much nicer soft play near to the village and it's 50 quid more...but it's clean and well run!

I resent having to organise getting DD to this stinking pit and paying out for a gift too. I don't drive so have to try to get DD in with a friend which means I feel bad for foisting her on another parent.

I don't send her to most of the parties there anymore...but she's been invited to FIVE this term and I've refused three..now another has arrived and she likes the child whose party it is and has begged to go.

WHY do they keep booking the shithole? They're in year 1 and I thought they would slow down this type of party now?

Don't go then.
Fairly easy solution I would have thought.

MrsWinn - you are a few years ahead of me parenting wise so I'm now quite excited at the thought that one day I will be sick of parties and no longer be so pathetically grateful for invites!

Ooh usual stalky!

Mumoftwo you will! It is worrying when your child is quirky but as I've learned there are also kids who love quirky. And not to mention OTHER quirky kids!

You have to pay for coffee?

Hosting parents always buy drinks for the poor parents that have to stay at the venue, surely?

I always think it is very touching when any of my children are invited to a party.
They are expensive and stressful to organise.

Why on earth should they?

Bloody hell I don't expect to be paid for when someone is already forking out £20 a head for my kids.

What about petrol money though?

Surely you don't expect your child to be driven 14 miles door to door without chipping in?

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Lol, you're bringing back memories. The old days when I was a size 8 and could go down the slides, just to amuse the kids of course! You'd need to cover me in grease and prise me out of the slide with a crowbar now!

worra no of course I'll offer the parent I ask....this is why I don't send her often. It does mount up and then there's DD1 to think about...if the parent who takes DD1 offers to drop and leave then great but if they want to stay with their child then I must offer to stay too...and then if they accept this I have DD1 to tag along and pay for!

That's what we need here....a really nice one with a wood burner!

I think you're miserable to be honest. Does your dd enjoy it? Then let her go. Just because its not up to your standards doesnt mean she wont enjoy it.

Some people fork out for birthday parties because their child is a bit "quirky" and they worry about friendships, and some send their children to parties other people pay for, for the same reason.

Stop complaining. Save up the money you could have spent on presents to host a party at the NICE venue then, if it bothers you that much.

surely at Y1 you can drop and run

Soft plays are hellholes on earth - kids seem to love them though. Just go, close your eyes and practise deep breathing whilst imagining you're in your special place. It will be over soon, I promise.

And no, the hosts definitely don't have to pay for the adults hot drinks. It's nice if they do - even nicer if it comes with a cake - but definitely not expected or even the norm.

Have YOU complained to this venue? pUT FEEDBACK where you can> called council over health and safety of it...for children?

Np your NOT bu but I hope you are taking pro active action to help address this place.

I hate soft plays , and parties for that matter!

However my children love them and seeing their happiness outweighs my icikines about them.

I have emmetophobia as well so an added issue

Last time I was at one some poor child shat in the ball pit of all places.

Felt more sorry for the guy going in with the bucket and rubber gloves. Where would you start?!

Anyway YANBU they are lurgi infested but hopefully not too many more now