To let DD sleep?

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She's 20 months old, and spends her mornings in nursery. Unfortunately she won't nap while she's there (too bloody nosey!). So by the time she gets home (1 o clock ish) she's shattered.

I usually go and prod her after she's slept for 2 hours, but last week she got overtired (not been going to sleep till an hour after bedtime) and I'd wake her up as usual and end up with a snotty, snivelling, tantrummy mess for the rest of the afternoon and into the evening.

AIBU to let her sleep as long as she wants today? Or will that result in her going to sleep even later meaning she wants an even longer nap tomorrow?

I would let her sleep for a little longer now - say 30 minutes - but not just until she wakes up.

I'd also have a chat to nursery about how they get her to nap. I know the nursery staff on occasion had to hide in the corner until he dropped off when they put DS down to sleep because otherwise he'd watch them setting out lunch etc and not go off to sleep. Could your DD's nursery do something similar?

My 18 month old has catch up naps a couple of times a week, he usually sleeps for 1-2 hours but occasionally sleeps 3-4 hours. It doesn't seem to affect his night time sleep and I think he needs it. I'd let her sleep!

She only slept for an extra 15 minutes anyway in the end- but at least she was happy and smiley when she got up!

I think the problem with nursery is at home she's used to being placed in her cot and left to it. She wouldn't let the nursery staff do that in the sleep room at nursery, just cried, if she's in the main room she'll just watch what everyone else is up to, and rocking her/cuddling her/stroking her face does absolutely nothing unless she's really tired. If she was there all day then she would nap after lunch for them (based on how she is when family look after her).

I will ask them to have another go as she's a bit more settled there, she might accept being left on her own in the sleep room now.

When she goes into the next room in a couple of months they all have a rest after lunch- so she'll miss it anyway.

I never woke either of my two, and they never went to sleep later as a result. I remember dd2 sleeping 1 till 5 often, then still going to bed at 7 for 12 hours.

I tend to wake DD if she's still asleep at 3pm but if she's really grumpy I'll often put her to bed a bit earlier.

Sounds a good deal to me - you get a nice long break while she sleeps!