to have reported this woman?

[NigellasDealer]

this bloody woman offered us grazing for dpony then my daughter started helping her wth her own band of feral horses which she keeps as ornaments or status symbols.
dd15 was mucking out for her at weekends and doing all sorts of helpful things but nothing kept the woman happy - she was constantly moaning and demanding money from me as she said dd did not work hard enough
then one day she was moving a load of broken asbestos and dd helped her.
when i confronted her with it she basically blanked me.
she asked my son 15 to get her some weed.
she went around the neighbourhood digging up gossip about us and repeateing it to my children.
we were looking around for a new place for the pony but could not find anywwhere.

the crisis came this weekend when she turned out a stallion with her mares one of which was ours and said to dd15 'dont blame me if your mare gets pregnant'

we moved the pony at once and i confronted her again about the asbestos - she told me to 'get a life'.
so i just phoned environmental health as that broken asbestos is still dumped in the corner of her filed.
wibu?

YANBU to report her but you should have removed your pony as soon as your realised there was a problem rather than letting the situation escalate.

Do and come back to let us know. She sounds dreadful! I can't believe people are being rude to you on this thread. Your DD is the most important thing here.

Banjo it's not like a cat or something...if she's got nowhere to put it then WHERE could she have moved it to?

OK it does sound a bit crap doesnt it?
seriously I have been lookng and looking as well as moving house.
as soon as we got a house with a garden we were able to act.

The fact is was raining is a good thing. If you are removing asbestos cement (often used for roofing) then they do recommend that it is damped down to stop the fibres flying around.

yes I read that online chaz and also took advice from my dad.
seriously if i could have moved the pony sooner I would have.

It's a legal requirement to dispose of asbestos properly, but I don't think there's anything to stop you moving it around on your own land. As she wasn't (?) paying your DD anything, she (maybe?) isn't required to provide her with protective equipment etc. etc. (?! what do I know...) She's definitely morally wrong, whatever the legal position.

Asbestosis is evil - inhaling asbestos fibres can lead to mesothelioma, a hideous form of lung cancer. But only in the very very long term. There's nothing at all that can be done now.

Oh, and the chances of it having done anything to her must be infinitesimally small. There are people who sawed asbestos for years and are fine...

thank you faster that is also what my dad said but still it is such a worry. apparently the dark blue or black looking asbestos is the most dangerous, and this was white/grey.

I was talking to a builder about exactly this last week. He said that the white/grey asbestos is the least harmful, and that if it's damp and outdoors the risk is much reduced.

I'm presuming you've washed their clothes, and they're not hanging up with other stuff?

Doesn't matter whether it's on your own land or not, DD is clearly under her care and is working for her, whether paid or not. Companies get fined tens of thousands for not protecting their workers adequately and exposing them to asbestos. Get on to the Health and Safety Executive now.

oh yes...

That's shocking! Asbestos is so dangerous. Hope your dd is ok.

Doesn't sound like she's looking after her animals properly, either.

Asbestos is fine as long as it's not breaking up and you can breathe it in, I was told.
f she cas just carrying lumps around she should be fine, but I'd wash her clothes thoroughly in case there's dust on it.

A lot of garages are made of asbestos cement round here, and they recommend you don't nail anything into the wall, and contact the council for advice if they start crumbling, but other than that the risk is exceedingly tiny.

TBH ,I can't see why you've bothered reporting her other than to be a bit vindictive . You have more or less admitted that if you couldn't have moved the pony you would have done nothing so it does smack of being a bit spiteful . Frankly if you live near this woman is it really worth the hassle .

no i have not done it to be spiteful - and I have been trying to move the pony for weeks - have moved house, the car had to be scrapped and I am literally totallly skint -
i know what you mean about the hassle though - she will be round my house effing and blinding and threatening to hit me.
as she is aabout 60 and can barely lift her arms I am not too worried. People like that throw their weight around to intimidate people.

Horse people are all mad, worst of the lot are the judgey ones.

what do you mean? judges at horse competitions? or what?

Is the pony now living in your garden?

Yeah, I think I'd have reported her, mu motive would have been revenge and I'm ok with that tbh.

well it was in the garden but then the landlady's daughter's horse got all excited and jumped into our garden from its adjoining field......so now it is in that field with her...feel bad about it as we forced the situation...:(

and yes, Noodle, my motive was spite and revenge as well as concern, lets be honest, I cannot live my life pretending to be a lovely person because I am not.