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AIBU to expect to get information without asking for it

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GirlWithProblems · 23/06/2014 13:53

Okay, so here's the thing:
At university we have to submit a journal for our lab work. It is not just putting down our findings but also some extra questions have to be answered. We work in groups and it is just one journal per group. We got ours back last week with a note saying "There is so much wrong just on the first two pages that I refuse to mark it at all. Please correct" Well, I was really ill and told the other two people in my group so. I did tell them my opinion on the parts that were already looked at but that's it.
Until yesterday evening, when I started to feel better, I didn't even think about it again. I just assumed that if anything came up they would tell me.
Apparently that is not what I should have done. According to them I should have asked every day what they were doing and how the journal was coming along. Because like this they now had to do all the work (poor them, it's not as if almost 3/4 of the original version were written by me...). At least that was what I was told by them after I had repeatedly asked about the journal.
AIBU to think that if they had wanted help they should have told me so? Or in general to expect that in a group information about stuff like this should have been shared without anyone having to ask.

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LRDtheFeministDragon · 23/06/2014 14:59

That doesn't sound great of the supervisor, TBH. Is there someone else you can go to to ask for advice here? Pastoral tutor?

If you genuinely don't understand enough to correct the work, and you've been ill, I think you'd be perfectly reasonable to go.

I think honestly you might be angry at the wrong person. You and your mates sound both to have done things that weren't ideal, but I'd be more worried it's not clear on the supervisor's side what you were meant to do and how you should have corrected it.

ThisBitchIsResting · 23/06/2014 15:41

I don't understand! Confused

If you were too ill to contribute, how can they be annoyed at you? Do they not believe you were ill? Is that the crux of it? Did they get all the work redone in the end?

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