To think friend one is being a bit unfair to friend 2?

[Snowcherriesfromfrance]

Friend One - let's call her A had a DD a few weeks ago.
Friend Two - let's call her B has been struggling to have a baby for quite a while and we all know this.

B struggled whilst A was pregnant and withdrew from the group a bit but did help to organise A's baby shower and bought a substantial gift to it (Moses basket and stand). A and B have always been close up until now. Probably the closest in the group actually.

I saw A today and she moaned on and on about how B isn't interested in her baby and she is going to "cut people out" who aren't interested in her baby because her baby is "amazing" and "fascinating." May I add that A has shown zero interest in anyone else's baby, ever. She said that B has only been to visit once and didnt bring a very good or personal gift (clothes) that weren't even wrapped and were obviously bought as an afterthought. Despite the fact that B has already paid quite a bit for a nice thoughtful gift at the baby shower (I loathe baby showers anyway). I did gently point this out to A as I appreciate she is still in the newborn phase but I did feel sorry for B.
Plus tbh generally are people that interested in other people's babies? I'm not especially, particularly when they are so tiny they aren't doing anything. A then went on for quite a while about her DD's "amazing head control" and "ability to grasp things already" I know I sound like a bitch but honestly, aibu to think she could be a little more understanding towards B who she is now "cutting out." A said "if you're not interested in my baby then I'm not interested in you." And she wasn't even joking.

I wouldn't ditch friend A - she's just had a baby, fgs, make some allowances for weird behaviour? Her feelings are probably a bit hurt. It's not a crime for her to be fascinated by her baby.

I do also feel for friend B, of course - her friend is currently too wrapped up in her own life to take into account the issues she's having. Friend B should distance herself anyway, there's no point in spending time with people who make you feel crap.

I'd do A a favour & ditch her & suggest to B to do the same!

I'm know I was completely infatuated with both mine, expected others to coo & fawn & probably droned on too much about them.

But moaning about gifts -a Moses basket!!-and being completely insensitive to someone struggling with fertility-hell no!

That's just nasty, not newborn fog/hormones.

Did you say to her that it is probably very difficult for friend B at the moment. I have to say that even allowing for the new baby hormonal fog, she sounds very unkind to friend B. I remember that all consuming love you feel for your newborn and how you think they are amazing but i think that should make you even more undertsanding of how painful it must be not to have that ( ie friend B ) if you really want it. Hopefully she will realise her selfishness before very long and apologise before she looses all her friends!

Vampryre, no, but it's a bit off (to say the least) to expect others to be AS fascinated by her baby as she is. And she was rude about the present and insensitive about friend B TTC.

Friend a is a self obsessed bitch. She really is. Bollocks to making allowances for the newborn haze.

That same newborn haze had me in tears on day 4 at the thought that our friends who had battled with infertility for years might not experience what we had. Not telling them I'd cut them loose if they wouldn't coo over our son.

Stupid selfish bitch doesn't actually cut it.

A is a bitch.

When I was pregnant with DC2, there was another woman at toddler group who was as well, we were due within 3 days of each other and often used to chat and swap pregnancy stories.

3 weeks before we were due, hers died. It was awful and I felt terrible for her. She kept away from toddler group for a little while and we all sent her some flowers.

After I had DD, I took her to toddler group and it was the same day this lady decided to come back (I didn't know this until I was there). When she came in I panicked and didn't know what to do or say. I certainly did not expect her to be the slightest bit interested in my baby so I didn't mention it (even though baby was there, being held by someone else). She did ask me how baby was which I thought was sweet, I answered but didn't go on. Because I am sensitive enough to realise how painful it must have been for her. I certainly didn't think she should be in love with my newborn at all.

B is better off without A. A is going to be very lonely at this rate.

Oh and when my baby was a few days old and it was the due date of the woman at toddler group. I sat and cried all day. Newborn phase has sod all to do with being sensitive to others feelings.

Her comments about the presents was disgusting as well. Self entitled bitch!

but Vampyre, it sounds from the OP's subsequent comments that A was being a bitch even before she had the baby.

I would move away from A and make sure B knows you're there for her.