To not go to Christening with DD?

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We are staying at PILs and DN is to be Christened today. DD has been up in the night vomiting lots and abdominal pain and vomited again this morning.

I have said I will be staying here with DD1 while DH goes to christening with DD2. They think that if she's not sick again I should take her to Christening and buffet lunch afterwards. Why would they think that's a good idea?

I am not going to take her but why would they think its ok? I'm starting to doubt my sanity so thought I'd Check with you (scary) lot!

No please don't take her. She's not well and needs to be at home, not to mention all the other people she could pass the bug to.

I hope she gets better quickly.

Don't take her. She's not well.

And I would suggest that everyone else in the family keeps well away from the baby........

Of course you shouldn't go. Apart from the risk of her throwing up at the ceremony or the lunch, she must be tired and miserable.

It's always very hard when a bug gets in the way of a major event.

Normally nothing bad happens if you misjudge it, maybe DD misses a day in nursery unnecessarily, or you get a call to collect her.

It is very different for a one off like this, which will never be repeated. DD and you will not be part of the family memory of this event, or present in any of the photos.

That is probably why your family are reluctant to accept you not coming. After all, she might be OK later, mightn't she?

It's a very hard one to call, either way, if you guess wrongly, you could really regret it.

Maybe the best thing is to plan to take her, with a plan B if it all goes horribly wrong. Would you be able to get a taxi back if it becomes necessary?

Insane..No one will thank you when bug goes through family.

Hopes she feels better soon

How old is your DD, OP?

I hope she recovers soon.

"Maybe the best thing is to plan to take her, with a plan B if it all goes horribly wrong. Would you be able to get a taxi back if it becomes necessary?"

Is that before or after she's given the bug to everyone else?

She's 5. Currently playing and seems chirpy which is why everyone is suggesting I take her. She was only sick half an hour ago though

I'm looking forward to a day of snuggling on sofa with her and reading books together. I don't mind missing christening and definitely don't want to infect everybody there! I know it's wrong to take her, just honestly could not believe it was being questioned!

You're right to stay at home. A judicious lie ("poor DD was sick again when the ceremony was on - so glad I didn't take her!") ought to silence critics. In any case you could exaggerate for effect if necessary.

Frankly, if she's been up all night throwing up then she's likely to fall asleep again as soon as the house is quiet. And that's just what she needs.

She can't go to school tomorrow anyway.

Get well soon.

Is your dh on board ?
Get him to tell them all to shut up !!

I had this exact situation OP and MIL and SLl went MENTAL at me because I refused to go.

I was mystified. It was just a control thing in their case. Ignore them and have your lovely cuddly day. I hope she gets well soon.

Don't take her. She's properly sick. And everyone will catch it.

Of course YANBU

hamptoncourt I can empathise.

Poor DD just looks washed out and shattered. Going to try and convince her to come back to bed for a sleep once everyone has gone.

Phone the parents of the baby and explain why you can't go. Then PIL can't make a big drama out of it when you aren't there.

I can't imagine why they think taking a sick child out is a good idea, either for your dd, the baby or anyone else at the Christening.

"I'm looking forward to a day of snuggling on sofa with her and reading books together. I don't mind missing christening"

Whatever you do don't say, or even imply, this.

Don't worry, I haven't!! And I only mean it in the context of 'I don't mind missing it as there isn't really an alternative so I'm going to be a grown-up and not make a fuss about it'.

They've all gone now and I think everyone had come round to my way of thinking by the time they left. Phew! First foray into AIBU less scary than expected