Name changed as could be identified
My cousin started working for my hubby a five years ago and we got friendly with him and his partner, became very good friends
My husband also ran a junior football club and gave cousin a coaching job as well as the other job
We helped them move house and gave them a load of stuff. When cousins partner got made redundant I helped her to get a job at the place where I work
Fast forward two years and both cousin and his partner got jobs elsewhere more in the field they want to work in but we all stay very good friends, meeting up most weeks
Fast forward three years I get pregnant, cousin and partner very happy for us and supportive
After I have baby, cousin and partner really begin to distance themselves, we think maybe it's because they do not have children and we have less in common now but a bit hurt. They also get engaged tell us we are invited to wedding. Wonder if it is more to do with I am his cousin rather then a friend but say we will come
Cousins partner puts message on Facebook that she is so glad she has more sophisticated friends since starting new job and they are glad to ditch some of the old ones. A bit hurt as they have been putting obvious distance between us and feel this is directed as us
It's nine months now since I have had baby and we have seen them a handful of times, baby was in hospital a month ago with pneumonia and they never contacted us.
But the real reason we now don't want to go (wedding next month and have excepted invite) is that when I had baby hubby asked my cousin if he would like to take over football club so he can spend his weekends with his family. Cousin agrees
Hubby changed everything over to cousin but bank changes took time so my husband signed a cheque (that was fully made out to a sports centre) so cousin could pay the bill for the Friday night football league they are part of (this was six months ago)
A month after hubby gave cousin the cheque the sports centre rang him and said they had not received cheque. Hubby explained he was no longer in charge, gave them cousins details and also rang cousin and told him to take cheque in. He also offered to take cheque in himself if cousin could not do it in the next few days. Cousin said he was fine to do it and Two days later we had a text to say this was done from cousin
Yesterday we had a letter off sports centre saying that they are taking legal action against husband for the unpaid bill as the games where paid under his name as head coach.
Husband rang cousin who admitted he had not taken it in as he had been busy! Husband played hell and cousin said he would sort it (no apology)
Not trusting him to do this husband emailed the football team parents committee
Cousin then rang husband yelling at him for "telling on him"
I really don't want to go to wedding now and neither does hubby. Aibu