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Original poster

not watching hubby play cricket at his teams cricket festival day?

21 replies

eragon · 21/06/2014 16:11

he said come down meet the players and families, and sit down and watch him play.
I just don't want to go and watch the cricket. I would rather watch paint dry.

am not being a supportive wife am I?

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MrsDavidBowie · 21/06/2014 16:12

Stay at home. I would.

HeartShapedBox · 21/06/2014 16:19

there's no way on earth I'd waste my day going to watch cricket, no matter who it was.

shame you've got a migraine coming on, eh op? Wink

ilovesooty · 21/06/2014 16:21

I take it that you won't expect / hope for his support in anything that matters to you?

MrsTerryPratchett · 21/06/2014 16:23

Does he come and clap you doing anything? If not, YANBU.

ilovesooty · 21/06/2014 16:26

Does he come and clap you doing anything? If not, YANBU

He might offer support in other ways - the OP might not have that sort of hobby. I think it's pretty ungenerous not even to put in an appearance, especially if his team mates' families are going.

Numanoid · 21/06/2014 16:26

Hmm, tricky. If it were me, I would go, as he probably wants you to watch him do well and support him, and show off (not in an obnoxious way) his skills.

Could you talk to anyone else who will be watching? The other families? Or maybe bring a friend or family member for company/to talk to if you get bored?

Failing that, go for an hour or so and tell him you'll need to leave early as you've already arranged to meet a friend/need to pick up a few things in town/have stuff that needs done at home...?

chantico · 21/06/2014 16:29

If it's an important event for him, it would be nice if you could go, especially as he'd like you to meet this cricketing friends.

Can you make a short visit (to coincide with the tea break) for maximum socialising and minimum spectating?

Or is your day genuinely full of other stuff?

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eragon · 21/06/2014 16:29

I have made the effort in the past, am not a total bitch.
why would I want him to stand and clap me for playing a 'sport' ? (btw both teams dress in white, at a distance, I have no idea when to clap or if he has done anything that requires a clap)

I have and still continue to go and make tea for the playing teams a couple of times a year.

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ilovesooty · 21/06/2014 16:31

If you made an effort to find out more about the game you might perhaps find it more interesting?

Leeds2 · 21/06/2014 16:34

I would go, although possibly not for the whole day. Would take a good book as a back up!

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eragon · 21/06/2014 16:36

I have had it explained, countless times. I have even been to see a match at the oval. I have tried. and tried. its not an enjoyable game.
The after match pub bit is good.

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Littlefish · 21/06/2014 16:38

DH has been playing cricket all his life.

When we first met, I used to go and watch him play as he played on both Saturdays and Sundays and as I only saw him at the weekends, it was the only way I got to see him!

Now, 17 years later, I very, very occasionally go and see him if it's a special occasion and he really wants me to go. Like you, I also make an occasional cricket tea. On the whole though, I would rather stick pins in my eyes than go and waste time watching a cricket game. There is always far too much else to be done!

Idontseeanyicegiants · 21/06/2014 16:40

I'm the wife and mother of cricket players in this family, get involved with teas and all the wotnot, but I'm buggered if I'm going to spend an entire day down at the club!
I go after tea and stay into the evening for a few drinks while the DC's play with the rest of the kids.
YANBU. Grin

MrsTerryPratchett · 21/06/2014 16:40

I want a hobby where I have fun and DH comes and claps me and makes everyone tea. Do those exist for women bloody patriarchy

LePetitPont · 21/06/2014 16:46

Another cricket widow here - if I fancy a lazy day I would pop down with my book. 50 over matches i can take or leave but I might try and make an effort with an out-the-ordinary festival...

Leviticus · 21/06/2014 16:48

I usually take the DC up for a couple of hours but I'd struggle with all day. I get DH to text me when they're batting so I can at least talk to him when we're there.

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eragon · 21/06/2014 16:53

He has played for 2 cricket teams and has football season ticket holder for all the time we have been together, so has been busy for many, many weekends when the kids where small.

now kids are nearly all grown up, and he has his stuff to do. I am now enjoying weekends that mean I don't have to rush and do what I want rather than chasing the kids, homework, washing school uniform and can sit reading a book in the garden sipping white wine in peace.

how can that bliss be compared to watching fellas in very hot sun playing with balls and bats while wearing man made fibre clothing?

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magpiegin · 21/06/2014 16:53

I do a sport and don't make my husband come to every event but it makes a huge difference when he does. I love having his support and feel happy that he is there.

Idontseeanyicegiants · 21/06/2014 17:02

Having younger children is definitely one of the reasons I don't go down that much, it's a real faff when they're not quite of an age where they know they don't run behind the sight screens or into the pitch and you have to keep them on a short leash for most of the day.
But it's rather nice to sit with a cold beer and a sleeping toddler on a hot day watching the cricket Smile

BreeVDKamp · 21/06/2014 17:14

YANBU it's dullsville

BackforGood · 21/06/2014 17:37

Well, it's more of a social occasion isn't it - meeting up with the other families, having a chat, etc. Personally, I quite like meeting people that my dh mentions in conversations - I like to be able to picture them, so I'd go if I had the time

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