To have worn a short skirt?

[UnderEstherMate]

I wouldn't usually, but today is warm and I couldn't find any clean clothes anything else to wear. I'll admit that I'm not the slimmest of people and I have some cellulite, but I'm not fat (or at least I don't think I am), I'm 22 so 'looking like mutton' isn't the issue, and the last time I wore this skirt two separate people stopped to ask where it was from and complimented me on it (something that doesn't happen very often!)

When I put it on this morning DP looked at me as if he was disgusted and asked "Where are you planning on going today?" knowing full well that I had errands to run and family visits that included him. I kept catching him looking at my legs as if they were dog shit. He even asked if I have shorts on underneath! (I don't - the skirt is quite fitted and shorts would just bulk me out even more. Plus, it's not the type to blow up in the wind anyway.)

I've already been out once in it today as I didn't have time to look for something else, but now I need to go down the busy high street and I'm feeling really uncomfortable. At the same time I don't want to change as I don't feel like I should have to. Am I going to be that fat girl who people say 'She should not be wearing that" about as they walk behind me?

OP when I was your size, (7 years ago!) I wore a skirt which just about covered my bum cheeks. I still have it - I think I could get one leg in it now.

I would wear it all the time if I could get into it! However I suspect it's not about the skirt by the way you describe your DP looking at you like that. Don't let him knock you - you are slim!!

Ha! Joey, snap! My skirt was above my stocking tops and I bloody loved it.

You look amazing don't worry.

Im 25 and in a short skirt today out of choice. I'm not a size 6 perfect figure either but I'm me and if people don't like the way I look then they don't have to look! That includes your not so dp xx

Agree with pps. This is not about the skirt it's about his attitude and no, tiredness doesn't make it okay. He is being a twat.

2 jnches above the knee? I wear that and am in my 40s LOL

I was imagining a skirt two inches below the bum

Skirts that you have to tug down are a no-no though as you just cannot feel comfortable in them, keep having to readjust etc.

DP is the problem, not the skirt.

I'm grumpy when I'm tired but I wouldn't look at dh's legs like they were dogs hit or make personal comments. He wasn't grumpy he was foul.

He's not being jealous. He's being a controlling twat.

Wear the skirt. Ditch the arsehole.

You're 22, a size 12 and it's 2 inches above the knee? Please stop pulling it down and stressing about it. You will look lovely. The skirt isn't a problem. Having someone who chips away at your self esteem is.

Yy what everyone else said, don't let this man erode your self esteem

Your DP sounds charming! I would be almost tempted to wear it to wind him up.

Seriously though, only wear it if you'll feel comfortable. If you'll be so self conscious that it'll ruin your day then change into something else.

22 and a size 12? Wear that skirt with pride girl! Either your dp is a twat or your insecurities are leading you to put this worst interpretation on his comments and looks.

Whoops just realised some feminists might be up in arms about the "girl", it's a colloquism round our parts

How odd of him to ask if you were wearing shorts underneath it. That's really not that short!

Is your DH feeling guilty about something and taking it out on you?

OP, your DP isn't my ex, is he? He only liked it when I wore baggy neutral-coloured clothes and would tell me I looked like a tart/hippy whenever I wore anything pink, short or sparkly. I was about your age at the time and changed my style to please him. It was only when we split up I realised just how hurtful and manipulative his behaviour was. These days I wear whatever I like and my DH only ever says lovely, supportive things, which is how it should be!

He genuinely isn't controlling, he's just a complete dick at times. I think sykadelic could have a point though... I def wasn't imagining the looks but perhaps I was reading into things a bit much. Or perhaps not, who knows. I did mention it to him today (I just couldn't bite my tongue any longer!) and he done the baffled thing.

Rogan I know. His whole family are funny about skirts and shorts. When he gets DD ready for school he puts shorts under her school dress (she's 5!) and his sister won't even let her daughter wear skirts because she "doesn't know how to sit in them properly".

MrsCakes I bloody well hope not! I doubt it tbh, he's been perfectly fine otherwise. Just being a prat this morning.

Wow, I'm a size 12 and have lost a fair bit of weight in the last year - I still don't have the guts to wear a short skirt so kudos to you (you definitely should, I have my own ishoos but wear short skirts in my garden. I still see 2 inches above knee level as being pretty short!)
If dp ever commented negatively or made disapproving looks at me wearing whatever I liked it'd knock me down a peg or two. I think he's feeling insecure about you looking good and taking it out on you which isn't on tbh.

My ex used to do shot like this. I would do my hair and friends would say oh I love your hair and he would say what have you done to your hair. If I had makeup on and I knew it looked nice (don't wear it all the time), if people said you look nice today he would say what you wearing makeup for. If I wore a different style of clothes and friends said I like that on you, where did you buy it he would say something like I can see your are cheeks/toys if I bent over when clearly you couldn't.

From what in know now I looked fine and it's him with the self esteem issues. He wouldn't dare say don't wear xx xx but would make sure I didn't feel confident.

Arse cheeks/tits. Stupid autocorrect

it's definitely something weird relating to wearing shorts underneath (he and his whole family ). Sounds like they are paranoid that a woman or even a small child can flash their knickers.

Above knee IS short, if it's bum-skimming it's a mini skirt.

To me personally this is the only 'difficult' length that doesn't suit me, applies to anyone whose thighs are not skinny, and I mean skinny - it hits the wide part of leg but cuts the length nearly in half. I can wear on the knee or below - or very short (on holidays as I'm not 22! - and look slim, but 2in above knee makes my legs look chunky and shorter. If your skirt is also clingy, that's even worse in terms of proportion as it makes the hips look bigger. But BF had no right to give dirty looks - if he is worried about knickers showing, he should have just said that!

Does sound like he (and family) have issues over women (and girls) being modest. Religious?

If you are early 20s and a size 12 wear the skirt with pride! Go out and buy another one.

FWIW I'm early 40s and yesterday wore a dress well above my knee - but not knicker flashing. DH didn't mind!

"keep the skirt, ditch the twat."

Maryz has it in one.

I'm a 10-12 when not pregnant and hubby loves it when I wear a skirt. He takes great pleasure in reminding me of a certain mini skirt and the time we went over a very windy bridge!

Plus he's always telling me I look good. That's what normal partners do.