To be annoyed about my friend expecting things from my daily

[citygirl1961]

I have this friend, we used to be really close but then she made friends with my sister in law and I was pleased at the time but now she's just taking the Mickey and its annoying me. Since she made a comment to my sister in law when she took me for some paint that I am lucky and she had to lug things home on her own she's now got her and my brother running about after her.

I hardly ask anything of them only to feed my cats if I go away for more than a night. They would do more for me if I asked I feel sure but I don't like to ask all the time. My friend has no pets yet when she goes away she has my sister in law going to her flat every day just to put the post on the table. She has her running about in other ways too because she drives.

Now she has been in hospital for the past week which I am sorry about and I have been to visit her. She is due home today and told me she was getting a taxi. Anyway I am due to go to my brothers house this afternoon as we are going out tonight. My sister in law rang me earlier to say my friend had rung her just to say she has to get a taxi home, my sister in law felt she was hinting so has offered to take her home. Now it means I am hanging about and can't go there until teatime. It might sound like I'm being unreasonable but I know my friend can afford a taxi, it seems my brother has also said this but somehow my sister in law feels obliged to give into her. I don't want to say too much in case it looks like I'm jealous which isn't the case. I just feel annoyed.

Also this friend just talks about herself all the time, isn't interested in anyone else and I know she irritates my sister in law too but she's so daft with her.

Am I over reacting?

Sorry the title should say family not daily. It's predictive text on my tablet.

That is annoying, unfortunately it's up to your bro & SIL how much they want to give.

Popping round to put post on the table does sound excessive, but maybe she's worried about burglaries or something?

YANBU.
Can't believe the previous comment!

Oops! MrsW's comment, that is.

Why not Sunbathe this is the OP's friend and she's been in hospital for a week! Why shouldn;t she have a lift from the OPs sil if the OPs SIL is prepared to offer it? Why is the OP so resentful?

Sounds like she's your sil and brother's friend too. Up to them if they want to do things for her. Maybe she has no family or other friends in the area?

It's up to them how much help they give.

And really, you're pissed off that you can't go to them until later because they're taking someone home from hospital?

Is that right?

If so, of course yabu!

Exactly Diddl but according to Sunbathe I was BU for pointing that out!

I thinking telling the op she is 'VERY self obsessed and jealous' is OTT.

Can you not see that?

Nope. I see that she only sees the situation as it affects HER. That's self obsessed and she sounds jealous.

MrsW put that OP sounds jealous & self obsessed.

Well from her post, she does!

It all sounds rather petty. Presumably your brother and sil possess the power of speech and are perfectly capable of saying no.

If they are happy running around after their friend that's their business. If you think she is taking advantage of their good nature you could point it out to them but it is still up to them what they do about it.

It would seem highly irritating when people hint.

Sadly it's up to them to tell her no.. keep your tongue as it won't make you look good no matter how you say it.

Well I don't like being called self obsessed and jealous. That is far from the case. I have a couple of other friends who think this friend is trying to put on my family. I do feel sorry for her being in hospital but I still think she's being cheeky hinting at a lift when she has other friends with cars and also could afford a taxi.

I will hold my tongue but I did say to my sis in law that my friend is a cheeky sod and she agreed with me.

I may sound mean and I don't want to sound that way but this friend of mine is a taker. I could write a book but it's too long winded to go into here.

Why exactly are you friends with her? I mean seriously, you're meant to like ones friends.

If she's a taker then don't give what you don't want to give. Other people can make their own minds up about it and act accordingly.

She had initially arranged for another friend to be at her flat when she gets home but obviously doesn't want to get a taxi.

She has always been a good friend in the past but has be become self obsessed. I guess it's hard to break off totally.