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to hate my brother

9 replies

emms1981 · 21/06/2014 12:39

I'm 32 and he's 30 but he acts like an child.
We used to be close as kids he's my only brother we had our own interests but ok has brother and sisters go,
as we have got older he's become a prat.
He lives with my dad but works full time, he puts a bit of money in but has no idea of the cost of living he went out and spent 6k on his first car ok its his money but dad told me today he doesn't pay half the food bill anymore.
My dad has an appointment at the hospital today (yes on a saturday) and is scared about it, my brother doesn't want to go in and support him only drive him to the hospital. We were all sat in the garden just now and my brother got the hump about something and chucked an empty coke bottle in my face
and when I said your lucky I don't phone the police he what they going to do arrest me? Its not the 1st time he's been violent to me I have a scar on my chin where he smashed a beer can into it.
He doesn't have any proper conversations with me just sarky comments now and then,
My dad puts up with him to keep the peace.

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Fancyarusk · 21/06/2014 12:42

Why couldn't you take your dad to the hospital?

ChampagneTastes · 21/06/2014 12:49

Is he violent towards your father? He sounds deeply unpleasant, are there any underlying issues?

RockinHippy · 21/06/2014 12:51

YABU to hate him, as all that will do is eat away at YOU & have no affect in him whatsoever

Wanting him out of your life however would be perfectly understandable as he sounds toxic as hell - (I have a DB just like this & then some & as a result we don't speak any more) my first thought on reading this, was - does he take drugs, sounds very much like a "cocaine personality" to me - volatile, selfish, self entitled & carp with money - is this a possibility ??

emms1981 · 21/06/2014 12:51

I don't drive (yet) failed test a few weeks ago
As far as I know he's never been violent to dad he would have told me, just argumentive and moody

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Spartak · 21/06/2014 12:53

Why don't you go in the car and stay at the hospital with your dad? Not quite sure what you are looking for from this thread.

emms1981 · 21/06/2014 12:53

Tbh he could get up to all sorts, he locks his bedroom door all the time even to sleep, he goes out with male friends who are known to be into weed and "legal highs" he's never had a g.f just aswell if the way he treats me is anything to go by

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whois · 21/06/2014 12:54

Why couldn't you take your dad to the hospital?

FFS that's not the point of the thread. The point is a grown man is acting in a selfish way towards his farther. And in a VIOLENT way towards his sister.

emms1981 · 21/06/2014 12:55

Yes I will go in with dad, I guess I just wanted to let off steam

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MrsWinnibago · 21/06/2014 12:58

Unfortunately your Dad is the one who has to make changes and you can't make him do that.

I have a brother who is similar but at almost 50 went back to my Mums...grumping about snapping at her and not contributing.

He's out now thanks to my Mum putting her foot down.

Your brother sounds awful and if he DOES do soemthing violent again DO call the police or the non emergency number and make a complaint. He sounds like he has arrested development and is still about 12.

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