Embarrassed by OH

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I work part-time in a well known shop. Think I'm pretty well thought of and get on well with colleagues.
So, today OH decided to return a faulty item to the shop (I'm not at work today) He's just called me to tell me he was refused a replacement by my manager and that he told them I worked there so he wouldn't pull a fast one and that his complaint was genuine. There appears to have been a bit of an argy bargy.
I'm bloody furious with OH for embarrassing me at my place of work and think he should have just left it. He disagrees and thinks he's done nothing wrong. I'm mortified and hate the thought of what's being said in the staff room on lunch break. AIBU?

Actually I think you are being unreasonable. It is ok to feel embarrassed because of the argy bargy, but unless your DP has form for creating a scene I think you should be more on his side.

I think you should support him too. Presumably, he knew about the item being dodgy and lots of people returning but the staff didn't know he knew and tried to fob him off.

What happened in the end, did they refund or not?

I would find it a bit odd if my dp went into my work and didn't mention that he knew me

It sounds like your colleagues were in the wrong by not replacing or refunding.

If you're feeling embarrassed about going back to work just remind yourself that you're not responsible for your dp. He's entitled to deal with issues his way (unless of course he was abusive to your colleagues!). You're also not responsible for your colleagues. I bet they'll be feeling a bit shame-faced that you know they questioned his complaint when you also know that others have complained about it too.

Thanks very much for your thoughts, it's interesting to hear different opinions.
APlace you make a good point there about it being odd for him not to mention me.
To be clear, I know that a few of these items have been returned with the same fault. We have a few managers and I suppose it may just be possible that this particular manager wasn't aware of this.
OH was sent away with no refund or replacement. He feels aggrieved!
He can be a bit socially unaware sometimes (he'd die if her heard me!) and I think that's probably what's bothering me to. You know, like maybe he didn't give a very good account of himself
Sorry, I hope that doesn't sound disloyal

Any more thoughts before I hit the wine

Just to clarify, was he actually threatening, rude and shouty? If so, then yoblu (you are being less unreasonable) than I first thought. If he was shouty and out of order, YANBU, if he was simply normal and assertive, then YABU.

ask he tells me he was standing his ground because he was right!
I wish he'd just left it when he saw the way it was going and then just let me deal with it next week.

But what does "standing his ground" mean?

If he's just reasonably arguing his case and expressing annoyance that they are not doing what consumer law says they should do, then that's fine.

If he's effing and blinding and yelling at people, then obviously then that's completely out of order.

No there was no effing and blinding Ask I get the impression he was just a bit incredulous and exasperated by the whole thing.
I just didn't want that to be the sort of thing my colleagues remember about him and wish he'd thought about the way I might feel.
I'm overthinking this do you think?

I think you are overthinking OP. If your colleagues aren't shifty people trying to pretend nothing is wrong and short change your husband and others then it's likely they'll be embarrassed about the misunderstanding too.

Although dropping your name would have been annoying for you, I think it must have been much more for him thinking that your colleagues were lying and making out he was.

So your OH's complaint is valid and he wasn't abusive, just assertive because he was right.

Don't you think that you should be 100% behind your OH then?

All food for thought, thanks for all the replies.
Can always rely on MN for an honest opinion

If your colleagues know that other people have complained about the item, then they may be quite sympathetic to your DH if they thought the manager gave him a hard time

If he was rude and aggressive then YANBU

Otherwise, maybe no great harm done, but I see why you're unhappy about it