Anybody living in a semi-detached house?

[DogCalledRudis]

We own our bit but the other is owned by a private landlord. Neighbours keep changing as nobody can afford living in that place for too long. The neighbours we have now don't let their DC to play with ours. The reason given is that we have a dog and cat, and the mother HATES animals... I hope they move out soon.

AND we always been friendly with neighbours. Joint BBQs and dinner parties... Just this lot does not respond so well.

YANBU?

Stop trying with them as they'll think you're desperate and start playing on it. Sorry but I'm speaking from experience here but enjoy your life with your family and get comfort from the knowledge that they probably won't be there long. If they start overstepping boundaries then nip it in the bud. I tried really hard to be a good neighbour and, it took my builder to make me realise, they just viewed good manners as a sign of weakness. My neighbours have been trying to make my life hell for the last year, to the point of police involvement.

I think it's great if you happen to have a neighbour whose kids are mates with yours and you have joint events etc. However, this is not usually the case. In semis or terraces or whatever. It's completely random who you live next to and the chances of them liking you to that extent are slim. I think YABU and expecting too much. And a bit sniffy tbh, pointing out that these renters can't afford to live in a house like yours for long. Obviously the pets thing is just an excuse to get you to back off. Fair enough I'd say. Doesn't mean they should move out. Just be polite and neighbourly. They might feed your pets when you're away, but want their private space while you're home.

Just do your own thing, behave as you'd expect normal neighbours to behave and be friendly.

YANBU

They aren't actually being horrible to you, they just aren't interested in being friends with the random people who happen to live next door.

I just know the landlord, he is a very grabby type. As for DC, our cul-de-sac kids play together. And the neighbour kids are "not allowed"