Probably am.

[Imsuchamess]

I'm annoyed as my mum has asked yet another favour off me.

I drop dc and dsis off at school. Mum picks them all up. Happy with this.

My mum works 7am - 2pm

I had my sister all day Monday as she was I'll.
I took her to a doctors appointment yesterday and was supposed to meet up with a friend after but my sister started being sick so I had to cancel and look after her.

Now today I have to go down my mums house and buy her a new bed over the phone and then fetch my sister up my house as she is I'll.

I have been psychotically depressed for a year and I am in the early stages of recovery. I also have physical health problems which mean I am in agony. I just feel like I'm constantly doing favours for everyone else.

Sorry - I'm just envious of people who have family living close. Your mum picks your dc up every day. I'd be happy to do favours, although I do sympathise with your MH issues.

You are being taken for a mug and I think you know that. You need to learn to say no and tell your mum to come up to yours.

It sounds like you started off with a mutually beneficial arrangement and gradually your mum is starting to expect more and more from you, which would be fine if you were happy with it, but you have to prioritise yourself and your mental health.

Could you sit your mum down and tell her that time with friends, time spent doing things for yourself and time to not be on call is vital to your recovery? It sounds like she thinks you are 'better' and may not realise that it's a process, not a switch. Do you think she would be sympathetic if you explained to her that you simply aren't able to do as much as she would like and try to make other arrangements wherever possible?

I'm in a slightly similar situation which I only realised when I had my daughter. I think it was when she moved that I realised how much she relies others for (dad cooks for her ,does housework etc,..) and was fed up with being asked to do this ,or getting guilt tripped into it (not as bad as some people get it she just sits there in a sulk for a bit and them forgets about it the next day ). I've backed away ,the turning point being her messaging me asking to call the emergency council people on a bank holiday because her shower wasn't working !! I just messaged back and said I got ok reply but I knew from that point onwards that I had to back away and concentrate on my own family. So now I don't offer so she realises that I'm not always there to help (she's too proud to ask if she thinks someone isn't going to help ). Know it sounds harsh but it's all or nothing with my mum ,if I help her a few times then it'll he all the time.
She's a brilliant grandmother to my two kids though and takes them out ,buys them stuff etc...which makes me feel guilty so I try and meet her in the middle. It's hard because it's family and "family always comes first " but to a certain extent.