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Handing out birthday invite early AIBU?

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Serendipity30 · 20/06/2014 00:08

DD's birthday is at the end of August, and a lot of her friends go away etc because of the summer holidays. WIBU to hand out birthday invites at the end of this month? Is it too early and if so when do you think I should?

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BackforGood · 20/06/2014 00:17

You can do, but a lot will forget.
You'd do much better having her party before they break up, or hanging on for the new school year and giving the invitations out when she goes back for a party mid-September.

My dcs really like having more than one birthday - we celebrate as a family on the day, then they have their "official" birthday when their friends will actually be able to come. Smile

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Serendipity30 · 20/06/2014 09:47

Her Birthday is on the last day of August, and you know what kids are like she would like to celebrate it on her actual birthday. So holding it 5 weeks before or a week before wont work. If it was a difference of 2-3 days it would have worked.

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nicename · 20/06/2014 09:52

We have a summer baby too. We have the party before we break up and do something with family on the actual day (so really 2 birthdays).

Then usually something else with family up north, and a friends picnic during the summer holidays. Phew!

nicename · 20/06/2014 09:53

Sell it as being like the Queen and having an official 'un-birthday'.

Flywheel · 20/06/2014 09:55

I'm in the same situation, but having in the next term is not an option as the classes are changing. I don't like the idea of new kids being left out, but celebrating with new kids she doesn't know seems daft. I have an email list and phone numbers for parents so I'm going to send out invites that way.

Daddypigsgusset · 20/06/2014 09:56

I think they would forget or make other plans nearer the time. Have it a week later.
Does your class have a Facebook page or email list? You could remind parents through that the week before if you do

CalamitouslyWrong · 20/06/2014 09:57

Have it two or three weeks late in the middle of September.

pancakesfortea · 20/06/2014 10:01

It depends whether she will care mote about it being on the right day or people coming. My son's birthday is 18th august and his birthday party will be 7th September. My other son is 30th July. We will have his party on the 12th. We have done august parties in the past but very few people come. If you're doing it I would bombard people. Save the date now, invite at end of term, reminders nearer the time if you ha e contact details.

BuildYourOwnSnowman · 20/06/2014 10:01

I'm currently arranging dd's party during the holidays. lots of people are away. next year i will do it before the end of term even thought it will be a monthe before her birthday

Heels99 · 20/06/2014 10:05

We want to two parties in the summer hols last year. Invites wee given out before end of term with time to RSVP before school finished. One was in the middle of the hols, only a small number of children attended as many were away but nobody forgot to go who had accepted. The other was last weekend of hols when many people were back and most the class attended and again nobody forgot. Most people have calendars and diaries!

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Serendipity30 · 20/06/2014 10:11

Problem is we already booked the place were it is taking place as bookings go fast so cant change the date now anyway

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Muffliato · 20/06/2014 10:15

Dd is invited to a party mid August. The mum handed out the invites yesterday. We've accepted and put the date on the calendar.
I presume most people will RSVP by text so it would be a good idea to text a week before the party saying just a reminder dc is looking forward to having xxx there.

Idontseeanyicegiants · 20/06/2014 10:19

DD's birthday is the beginning of September so I know party invites are a PITA at this time of year.
Ask everyone to RSVP by text and write on the invite that you'll send a a reminder text the week before the party.

pancakesfortea · 20/06/2014 10:21

Then I think all you can do is bombard people. You can't help people being away, so you just have to relentlessly chase down the others with constant reminders. Good luck!

MrsWinnibago · 20/06/2014 10:22

If you've already booked, send them now and text people reminders a week or so before.

My DDs bday is also in the summer hols and we've never once had it on the actual day but weeks before or after. I find the last week of the summer term works best. People DO forget or they're away. Children get used to it....we have a family day out on the actual day.

BlackeyedSusan · 20/06/2014 10:36

all summer holiday invitations are sent out wel lbefore the summer holidays here. gives time for a second batch to be sent out as half thepeople are away.

EssexGurl · 20/06/2014 12:11

DS is August. We did one party in the holidays - never agin. V few people were around and none of his closest friends. We now do end of term in July or beginning of new school year in September. Much better turn out.

As end Aug birthday, personaly I would delay until first weekend in September.

But in your case I would give out the invites ASAP but prepare DC for the fact some people won't make it.

Hersetta427 · 20/06/2014 12:24

DD is a right at the end of August birthday and so we have her birthday party the first weekend in september as we know most people will be around as school has started. She gave out the invitations to her party on 7th September last week. We did it early so if people can't make it there is enough time to give more invites out to people on the 'b' list before the end of term. She is having a go karting party with a very specific maximum number so we pay the same amount amount regardless.

TwoAndTwoEqualsChaos · 20/06/2014 12:27

We received an invitation for an August party yesterday. The mother had already canvassed at the school gate so she had an idea whether or not it was viable and, obviously, people knew if they were away.

OorWullie · 20/06/2014 12:30

Send invitations out and a little note asking if people could maybe send you a text if they intend for their child to go (maybe not a positive yes or no, it's a way off and peoples' plans change).

you can use their numbers to text a reminder nearer the time and confirm final numbers.

nicename · 21/06/2014 19:34

If you go online there's a site called something like 'paperless post' where you can send out e-invites and followups. Ita mainly free (unless you go for something really fancy).

I'd send out the paper invites and ask for email addresses then follow up will an einvite nearer the time.

Whathaveiforgottentoday · 21/06/2014 20:59

It makes sense to send them now. Most people are back from their holidays by the end of the august.

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Serendipity30 · 04/07/2014 20:54

Hello Sorry I have not posted for a while thank yolu so much for the feedback i will be handing them out on monday

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CSIJanner · 04/07/2014 21:57

I have this problem - I booked for Sept 13th but they go back the 4th :( Maybe better to send out some save the date but that still appears a bit meh and brideszilla twattish tbh

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