Is it me or him

[Golightly133]

Just had a quiet night in with dh who has called me a porker and told me I need to lose 2 stone and he has has a lot of health trouble and I have been 100% support to him and tbh I just don't think
He needed to say it I know I could do with losing a bit of weight but the last couple of
Weeks have been horrendous feel like crap now

It's interesting because there was a thread recently where everyone was defending a wife trying to get her husband to lose weight. I think everyone supported her.

But, your DH shouldn't have gone about it like that if he is concerned about your health. Is he normally an ass like this?

Under what circumstances did he feel it right to call you offensive names? Has he a track record for this kind of behaviour? Is he a perfect physical specimen himself? (You already answered this, he's not.)

How hard would it be to ltb?

Tell him sex with him is like one of those days you cant get the tampon to sit right. Make his night that will..........

He had no reason to call you names. I would find that extremely difficult to forgive.

Princessbabycat that thread was not about a wife calling her husband names, but cooking for him and talking about seeing doctors out of concern for him dying of the same weight-related problems his father did.

There's no excuse for name-calling. If he's concerned for your health, he would have brought it up gently and sensitively. Based on your op, he's just an ass.

Xcountry :D

Why thank you Super, tonight I'm feeling like a right little ray of sunshine

Calling you a porker was definitely not the right way to go about discussing any health concerns he may have had.

I am not that fat I am
Ok maybe a couple of
Pounds to shift - couldn't even begin to think of leaving far to complicated

Is he significantly overweight? You say you need to lose a few pounds is that true?

I ask because if he is overweight and his health issues have highlighted a need to lose weight then perhaps he is projecting by (in his head) saying "Well she needs to lose weight more than me!"

Personally I would have batted back with "Thats a bit rich coming from you, how many weeks pregnant are you with that food baby?!" but I am like that!

I don't think you should leave him if you love him and things aren't normally that bad, I do however think a quick flick of a sharp tongue on your behalf to show him how calling you names makes you feel would lower his pedestal a bit. Like you said encouragement and supportive - fine, calling you a porker - not fine.