AIBU not to give a wedding gift?

[Haggischucker]

Just putting it out there for ideas from the MN massive.

I am making the wedding cake plus 100 cupcakes as favours at cost price for happy couple but not charging for time (3 full days) I am actually losing money as bought extra bits including a cake topper at £20 as run out of time to make it!

Should I also give a gift, which would be cash, no poem not request I just know they would prefer this.

Over to you all .......

I would just give them the cakes along with a wedding card so that it is clear to them that's your gift. Seems like you've been generous with your time already, they would appreciate that surely?

Are the ingredients expensive if not too much you could just give them the cake?

One of my bridesmaids made my wedding cake. She didn't buy an additional gift. YANBU, wedding cakes cost a phenomenal amount in ingredients and are very time-consuming to make. I would be sure that your friend knows that it has cost you money and taken you time though, as I think a lot of people have no concept of how much everything costs and how long it takes.

A friend made mine. No way would you need to give a gift, it's very generous to receive the cake as a gift.

I would love to be able to give cake for free but it cost me £75 for the wedding cake and 70p a cupcake so too much for a present really as I'm skint. I don't think she will be expecting anything, got a nice card (with a cake on it!) :)

YANBU. I'd send a few text updates during the process so she understands how much time it takes.

YANBU - that sounds very reasonable indeed.

I think you are very generous as it is, just a nice card with a lovely message. If they know what's what they will really appreciate yourefforts and kindness.

The extras and your time are your wedding gift.

Imo the cake and cupcakes is enough because it costs a lot but ideally you should have said that you are offering this as the wedding gift.
Just so that you avoid expectations and misunderstandings.

It is not late , you can say something now.

A nice card and a bottle of bubbly

A bottle of bubbly!? No, you've made the cakes - that is the gift. Card and you're done.

A bottle of bubbly!? No, you've made the cakes - that is the gift. Card and you're done.

YANBU, that is plenty. I might be tempted to make two of the cupcakes as special bride and groom congratulations ones but no pressie, just a card. Or, if you really wanted to get something, then a bottle but personally I think you've done enough.

Yy, make 2 cupcakes, package separately and put on gift table in a gift bag (so it will be kept upright.) You hear of lots of people who neverget a slice of their own wedding cake.

Thanks all, didn't want to seem cheap.

Going to knock some £'s of the final total and give her a nice card as planned. Had to use holiday days from work to make the cakes so she def understands the effort plus we are both catering backgrounds too. :)

Yanbu, a lovely friend you are. The time And effort you put in is worth more than the cash gift.

no way get a present too. everyone will be kissing your arse at your gorgeous cooking and you've not had the hooha about trawling online for something presenty.

OR ... do what a man who was super tight fisted did ... and take some fairly scrumpled wedding wrapping paper with a tag attached "love from cake maker girl" (or whatever your name is) and then when the B&G find the tag and paper they'll think the present's gone missing and they'll marvel at your generosity at giving them cakes and cadeau (oooh la la).

or not.

YANBU. I would never expect a wedding gift from a friend providing the wedding cakes at cost. Of course, a wedding gift should never be expected anyway

Oh, and I didn't get a slice of my own wedding cake either, so a gift bag for the bride and groom is a fab idea