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To think that this was rude and a bit ungrateful

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Hoppinggreen · 19/06/2014 20:44

At my children's school they encourage parents to go and share their skills so I offered to go into DS's year to talk to them about something. I asked his teacher if she would like me to and she said yes but she would check with the other classes (3 classes per year). Next day she said they would love me to come and we arranged that i would go this afternoon.
I arrived at the time agreed and went to DS's class. I asked which class I should do first, then another teacher appeared and said her class was very busy and didn't have time for me to go in there. DS's teacher looked a bit embarrassed but I said not to worry I could give extra time for the other 2 classes. I went to DS's class and spoke to them for half and hour. I then went into the 3rd classroom and the teacher didn't even look up. Some of the children came to speak to me and the teacher looked up but didn't come over. I said hello and why I was there. She said " oh yes, well you will have to wait" and left me standing there for almost 15 minutes!!!!
Once the children all sat down I had 10 minutes to speak to them before it was home time.
I'm a bit out out to be honest, I don't expect them to fall at my feet I enjoy going in as much as the children enjoy having me there ( hopefully) but I think it was a it rude.
Added to that is the fact ( which to be fair the teachers probably didn't know) I'm self employed and have up an afternoons work, and therefore money to do this.
I don't feel much like volunteering again to be honest, although I'm sure I will if the Dc's ask me to!

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PrincessBabyCat · 19/06/2014 20:47

Honestly it does seem a tad odd that you would be presenting in a class that wasn't your DC's. I don't think we ever had a parent that wasn't a parent of a classmate present.

Hoppinggreen · 19/06/2014 20:50

There are 3 classes in each year and I regularly go into DD's year and spend 30 mins with each one teaching a language ( at their request)
I have also been into DS's year before and spoken to all 3 classes.
I was asked to do this remember

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SueDNim · 19/06/2014 20:51

That sounds very rude.

Itsfab · 19/06/2014 20:54

Definitely rude.

I volunteer in school and it means a lot to be appreciated so I can imagine how you feel Sad.

MirandaGoshawk · 19/06/2014 20:54

It's just the individual teacher who was rude, it's not the system IYSWIM. Maybe she was busy, but yes it was still rude not to speak to you. Maybe she resents you coming into her class?

I have to say that lots of teachers treat adults as if they are four years old. It happened to me at my dch's school.

HecatePropylaea · 19/06/2014 20:55

It does seem very rude, yes. I don't think I'd be much inclined to go again either.

I wonder if they really did want you to go in or whether your child's class teacher sort of foisted you on them. That's what I would think.

Clearly she wanted you to go in, but perhaps she was a little misleading when she claimed to you that all the teachers were keen?

VeraClaythorne · 19/06/2014 20:56

It's hard to comment without knowing what you were there for. If another teacher arranged for someone to come into my class for a 30 minute talk I probably wouldn't be too happy. Unless it was related to topic or useful in some other way. Still, I (and the children) would think 30 minutes a long time to talk about anything. Teachers have a lot of things to teach in a short time and I can see why someone would resent losing more time to something they consider irrelevant. Obviously that doesn't excuse rudeness though.

wooldonor · 19/06/2014 20:57

Why is it odd? At my DCs school parents come in and work with a class that doing a topic that their skill relates to, it isn't always their own child's class.

I agree, it was ungrateful, I'd be annoyed in your position.

Hoppinggreen · 19/06/2014 20:59

It wasn't a talk as such, sorry to be misleading.
It was an interactive session about something they are covering at the moment that I happen to know a bit about and have a relevant skill.

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Raskova · 19/06/2014 21:16

I think that's massively rude.

You were asked and it's something they are studying!

Sounds very odd to me.

clam · 19/06/2014 21:17

"I was asked to do this remember"

I thought you said you offered? Either way, the other teacher was ungracious - or rude, really.

Itsfab · 19/06/2014 21:24

Even if the teacher didn't want you there, there is no excuse for being rude.

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