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to go back to uni full time as a single mother of a school aged child?

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RollingGreenMarble · 18/06/2014 21:53

Has anyone done this? How would I even fit it in with his schooling? I don't have a car, how could I run one? and without one I wouldn't be home til 5 (he finished at half 3).

I can't stand the job I'm in, and finally want to do something I actually want to do.

Please help!

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dawndonnaagain · 18/06/2014 22:00

I did it, albeit 25 years ago. He was six. The uni ran half term clubs for students with children, we managed. Best thing I ever did. Also met dh there, still together 21 years later.
A cheap after school club or childminder will help, you may find you only need one day a week, or maybe none. Contact time at uni is not a huge amount as most of it is reading/research. So, five/six hours of lectures and the same with seminars. Some years I needed help with ds, some years, other than half term, I was able to do both drop off and pick up.
Good luck!

revealall · 18/06/2014 22:02

Depends on the course but full time at Uni can mean nothing of the sort. 12 -16 hours in the first year down to 4 in the third.
You also get bursaries, loans and plenty of help such as student discounts, cheap credit etc etc.
No council tax to pay as a student and tax credits are still paid.
Easier by far than working.

revealall · 18/06/2014 22:03

I did it last year by the way.

MustShowDH · 18/06/2014 22:04

Is this a wind up?

Why do you work if you can afford not to?

SoonToBeSix · 18/06/2014 22:05

Must I am confused by your post.

DangerousBeanz · 18/06/2014 22:08

I did it, single mum, DS was 5, I worked part time in two jobs and compressed my lectures into 2 days.

MustShowDH · 18/06/2014 22:09

Surely loads of people would love to quit jobs that they don't like and go to Uni? But they have rent and bills to pay etc..

sweetlilacsinspring · 18/06/2014 22:09

Me too Must.

But I don't have to work, and I want to :)

Katkins1 · 18/06/2014 22:10

I have just finished. Lone parent, daughter 6. Got a first :D I don't drive, it's manageable.

dawndonnaagain · 18/06/2014 22:12

Surely loads of people would love to quit jobs that they don't like and go to Uni?
And that is what Student Loans and Bursaries are for.

NoodleOodle · 18/06/2014 22:18

I did it as a lone parent too, part-time, worked through most of it. Took longer than others but meant I had plenty of time to read (I came out with a first too, which is a nice self-esteem boost). Seeing you studying can be a great influence on your child. Mine spent a lot of time in the uni library - the section for the teaching students was full of brilliant texts for her, and she could also log on to the computers and sit playing maths games and similar while I typed up essays etc.

If you really want to do it, you will find a way. You will have to re-prioritise your life to do it, but it can be done.

Do you have a family who would help support you, maybe commit to one evening of childcare a week for you?

ChickenFajitasAndNachos · 18/06/2014 22:25

I did it too, my DS started school in the September and I started uninin the October. He went to an after school club once a week when i had a Late lecture. In the second and third year there was more opportunity to choose subjects that were on in the morning or early afternoon. I also managed to get Wednesdays of buy choosing subjects that were on different days.
I never washed clothes in the week but did it al on a Friday evening, cleaned my flat and did big bits of homework on the Wednesday. It was very hard work, I took one week at a time but have no regrets.

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