Aibu? - probably, but am in a grump with DH and need someone neutral to tell me I am.
When I had DD1 we had a party for her first birthday, inviting our NCT friends, those that I had met through baby groups and our friends who also had children, along wish out family. Because there were so many we hired a hall and some soft ply equipment and it was a lovey day.
DD2 came along, and with staying in touch with DD1s friends I didn't do baby groups etc with DD2 and we didn't do NCT. As a result we don't really have any friends with children her age. I did feel guilty at first, but she loves her sister's friends and has lots of fun with them and gets doted on by them.
Months back DH and I were talking about if we should do a 1st birthday party for her (this was still at the point when I felt guilty she had no friends). DH insisted we should as it wouldn't be right not having one for her when we did for DD1. Every time I tried to discuss when, and if we would hire somewhere or go to soft play, he was very non-committal. So in the end I let our parents and our siblings know we would do something for family at out house and set a date.
After we had done that DH starts inviting people. Not just DD1's friends who DD2 sees (which I am OK about) but his friends who have children, a couple of whom haven't even met DD2. Thankfully he hadn't said a time, so we I sent a message out to all who had been invited saying they were welcome to "pop in for an hour or so" between certain times. When I counted up there could be almost 50 people (including kids) descending on our house in less than a week of him inviting them all. And I BET they all turn up at once. I am hoping for dry weather so we can at least use the garden.
I am really pissed off, as if I had known he was going to do this, I would have hired somewhere. I am more pissed off that people are coming who haven't been bothered enough to meet DD2 since she has been born. Because of all this I have got myself into a real tiz about the birthday cake, food and drink, to the point where I have been snapping at my DH (who is actually such a lovely man) and being really grumpy with him.
So what do you think? AIBU to be pissed off with him? Please someone tell me I need to get over myself or something.
(Sorry for it being so long)