to feel uncomfortable about young child nude in the garden

[mrsfuzzy]

went to a friends the other day for a bbq with family had a great time, as people started leaving my friends daughter [4] wet herself and proceeded to strip off in front of my family and hers, was i bu to feel abit uncomfortable about this, especially as their garden is over looked by a lot of windows and no effort was made to put a swim costume or undies on her, o.k probably being prissy but i had to take my kids and leave, my friend was ok with us going as the party was winding down but it seemed strange as there were several men present who were not family members and the fathers mates from the pub. aibu to feel awkward ? was abused as a child so possibly more aware of potential problems.

Another good luck and from me, mrsfuzzy.

Good for you mrsfuzzy. I agree with everything that's been said above.

You sound like a wonderfully strong person. Best of luck - this may be the beginning of shrugging off a huge and painful part of your past. x

Best of luck getting help op

Brilliant OP, I really hope you get the peace you deserve

Good luck mrsfuzzy fwiw I think mine started covering up in the garden when they were 6 or 7.

There was once an issue raised re another pupil at their school and social services advised that most children will avoid being naked in front of others by the time they're 9.

Yabu for me, but with your history I'd say yanbu for you.

dd was charging about naked on the beach two weeks ago, she was so happy. I think it's a shame kids can't be
More naked. Where my mates live in Greece kids charge about the beach naked all the time, it's just the done thing.

Good for you Fuzzy. Today is the first day of the rest of your life and all that...

yanbu i feel the same

Oh blimey, my dc get naked all the time. Yabu to assume everyone is a pervert. They're in their own garden. Presume as you've had children you've seen them naked and I presume you don't see them as sexual shop why is there an issue? Dtds stripped on the beach last weekend and ran naked in front of strangers. They're children!

was abused as a child so possibly more aware of potential problems.

I am ever so sorry to read that OP, and I think this does condition your response. In general yabu, but I do understand why

good luck xxxxx

My 4 year old is naked in the garden a lot and it wouldn't occur to me to insist he covers up. I think it's fine up until about 8/once the child is self conscious.

Good to hear, OP :)

I think your view is skewed by your experiences - everybody's view is skewed by their experiences! My personal experience is that it wasn't a problem when I was a child.

Very best of luck, Fuzzy & I hope you get all the help you need.

YABU My DSis and I regularly ran around in the garden (and on the beach at times) with nothing on in the summer.

There is nothing wrong with nudity. Children should feel free to do this. I remember how much I loved it on a hot summers night if it rained, to take my nighty off and run round the garden in the nude. I probably did this until 7 or 8 when I started to get a bit shy.

Like others have said it is only a teeny tiny % of people who would look at children in an inappropriate way and would do this whatever.

im glad youre going to try and talk to someone about your feelings here. Naked children is pretty normal and ok. The vast vast majority of people wouldnt even give it a second thought.
Im sorry you suffered abuse and its still affecting you now x

Sorry OP on first read missed that you had been abused. I am so sad about that but am pleased to read further down that you have turned a massive corner in your life to get support. That is wonderful and all from a thread here where you were able to express your worries.
I hope you get all the support you want. You are very brave to share this all.
Take care.

Good luck OP x