The little girl next door who is 8 came round to play with my little girl who is 5. This has happened frequently especially in the summer months as we have a fence panel down between the two houses so they can easily come and go. We have always got on well with the family although recently there has been some unspoken tension as we have bought a motorhome which we keep in storage during the winter months but which is on our drive for much of the summer.
She comes here to play far more than my little girl goes there as the girl will say things like we have to play at yours because my mum has tidied. I find this annoying but dont mind really as at least i can keep a closer eye on my daughter. Whilst she was here I went upstairs to check on them to see my daughter who had pen drawn on her face (felt pen) so i asked her what had happened to her face and the other girl said i did it we were playing a game and now we are washing it off. So I said, 'you don't draw on peoples faces please don't do it again". All was well and they carried on playing for a while before she went home. Fast forward to the next day and the dad asked my husband if he could have a word and said she had gone home very upset and that if we have any other issues could we see them and not tell her off. So my husband explained about the pen and the dad said yes she told us about that and we told her it was silly. Now tell me AIBU to think that you can tell a child off in your own house and by tell of i mean ask them not to do something and also am i being unreasonable to assume that had she been upset at the time she would have gone straight home instead of continuing to play. I am annoyed that he spoke to my husband and not me as i feel i can't defend myself as if i raise it again it will seem like i am being funny. The child involved was 8 (i also have 2 boys 8 and 11), if my children play at others houses i would expect them to be told off if they did a similar thing. But AIBU.