fed up with terraced house living this morning (grump/whine/vent)

[matildasquared]

Please stop reading now if you're not in the mood for a good old vent! I am fortunate to have a good home and this is definitely not the biggest thing I have to worry about. Just feel like venting my spleen.

Normally I really enjoy my neighbourhood. I live in a row of terraced houses in a northern small town. I get along with all my neighbours. Because we're all cheek by jowl I do my best to keep relations good: I give them baked goods and extra tomato plants, always say hello and wave, offer rides if I see them walking to the bus stop. I'm mostly chilled out about the smoking or the occasional football landing on a flowerpot.

But here's what happened this past week:

1. I'm eating tea and I hear BEEP BEEP BEEP outside. I finally go look and it's a car in front of my neighbour's house. I give the driver the stink-eye and he gets out and knocks on the neighbour's door.

1. Next door neighbour's boyfriend stays for a few days with his adorable little dogs. Lovely dogs except YAP YAP YAP YAP YAP YAP. At midnight! I nearly pounded on the fucking wall. I guess I'm supposed to speak with her about it but I rather think the default is to NOT allow a dog to yippity-yap all night. I really have to explain that I'd rather not hear it?

1. Last night I had a quarrel with my husband and so was not sleeping that great to begin with. At 1:30 I wake up to loud laughing and talking. As well as a fug of cigarettes. Neighbours two doors down probably had football party, two young women out in garden obviously forgot how late it was. I went out in my bathrobe and said, "Hey you woke me up! Could you be quiet out here?" Then went back inside muttering to myself. It was the first time I've ever just been outright shirty with a neighbbour but I was just at the end of my rope. Do you not notice that there are houses all around you? With people in them?

I would so dearly love to live in a little cottage up on the moor in splendid isolation with husband, cats, chickens, maybe a dog. But my husband likes being close to town. He has a point, especially as we get older.

But I'm fed up with always being the considerate one.

For some reason the home improvement noises don't bother me so much--within reason. I think it's nice they're looking after their homes and gardens.

Similarly with children. Normally it's charming but even when they're super loud--well, having a family is a human right. You can't get mad at kids for being kids.

The piss-taking noises bother me. The needless noise. Like having a yippity dog in a terraced house, sorry! There must have been some decision-making process in getting the dog, right? "I'll get this yippity breed for my terraced house. My neighbours will just have to put up with it." That is a piss-take.

Music is the one that gets to me.
Thumping bass to be exact.
No need for it, it's not accidental, they know exactly how loud it is. Cocks.

Our neighbours have a yippy dog too. And a habit of starting to vacuum or do diy when together back from the pub.
However Ds is in the room next to their bedroom and with windows open in the summer I am sure he wakes them nice and early!!

Wherever you live there will be some noise.

My nearest neighbour is almost a mile away and I was woken Sunday morning (my only lie in of the week) at 4:30am with the birds cheeping away as if their little lives depended on it and the sheep baaaa-ing because I'd fallen asleep with the windows wide open. It's a hard life.

Stealth boast much maninawomansworld

The sound of wildlife is in NO WAY comparable to having noisy neighbours. Not even close.

YANBU, except for the foxes barking . Horrible racket at 3-bloody-am!

I know what you mean about the rest, I try and be considerate of my neighbours

I don't let my kids out to play until later on a Sunday, I WD40 my trampoline regularly so it doesn't squeak, I don't let the dog bark in the garden constantly, my security light does not shine directly into my neighbours bedroom window, etc, etc

Yet my neighbour revs the bollocks off his motorbike at 6am, the other neighbours kids were having a screaming match outside my house at 7:30am Sunday morning (bugger off and do it outside your own house), I don't want to hear thrash metal at 2am at 400 decibels (ok, only the once, but still, WTF?) another neighbour lets his dog bark for hours in the garden and gets his massive petrol lawn mower out or jet washes his patio at the crack of dawn. Or next door who doesn't want to listen to his own teenage daughters' late night gatherings indoors so has put a gazebo out in the back garden for them to shriek and giggle and play loud music in.

I do live fairly rurally and generally we all get on very well - feed each other's cats when we go on holiday, have BBQs in the summer, take in deliveries, that sort of thing, but please, just shut the fuck up, for 5 minutes!

Birdies chirping and sheep baa-ing?

This is not a safe place for that.