to feel sad after this mums support group disintegrated

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I attended a group for mums with postnatal depression last year. We all got on well and the group seemed to help all of us.

When the group ended we all agreed to keep in touch and keep meeting up. We did this a few times but it soon tailed off. Most correspondence/meet-ups seemed to be initiated by me. In the last few months I've contacted two mums individually to suggest meeting up and they haven't replied to my email!

AIBU to feel personally upset by this? I feel like I opened up to them more than to some of my friends and it felt like a genuine plan that we'd all stay in touch, but I feel so let down. When I'm having a bad day/week I think how nice it would have been if we'd continued to meet up. I feel like everyone is 'better' now so would rather not be reminded of when they felt at their lowest, but I saw it as an ongoing support.

I don't think it's unreasonable to be sad about it - that's how you feel. I guess that if it didn't work, then that's just how the cookie crumbles. You could maybe create an alternative platform? Maybe an online forum for PND mums?

Ah yes that's hard but I do think you hit the nail in the head as pehaps it's a reminder of dark times.

Onwards and upwards op, look for new groups but you are quite reasonable to feel sad.

Thanks for your replies. I feel like I shouldn't be sad about other people's behaviours especially if they have also been depressed. I'm just taking it personally I think.

I thinkif you're in a group because of a shared adversity then as things (or yourself) get better it's natural to move on. Nothing personal, but putting it behind is probably what they are doing.