to tell him the lawnmower is his present

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So for my birthday I asked mil for a contribution towards a fairly routine item that I needed. Perfectly happy to use her contribution and fa I, y funds to purchase this item. So mil gives me cash. All good. However, dh decides that actually he will buy said item for me as my present but can I wait until next month.
So my birthday comes and I have precisely nothing to open. I get a gift later from bil but that is it. My parents have passed away.
However, it is now dh birthday and he presents me and his family with a long list of completely non essential items he would like. Having gone out the week before to buy a lawnmower he fancies even though existing one ok.
Aibu to not make any effort as clearly I wasn't worth any effort.

So you bought a necessary thing and got your pressy reduced!

Now he has bought a lawnmower...

You know he is being unthinking. Go on, give him a moment of clarity, a new perspective.

And that flag

I know how you feel, oxford my OH asked what I wanted this year so I told him I wanted a clarinet as I wanted to learn a new instrument. (I truly have 8 days in a week LOL) he thought about it and then said, "why don't you want a keyboard so we can all have a go on it?"

NO. I don't want a keyboard. I wanted a clarinet. I got nothing.

Yes nomama. You put it better than me.
He will get his gifts but I will be getting myself a few additional little treats throughout the year I think.
I gess I am too frugal to treat myself normally.
O we were also going to go away for my birthday to a spa type hotel but didn't as it was too expensive. However, we are going away on a cheaper break (well free accomodation tbf) for his birthday but of course will have dc with us and will be going to a place he likes. Think I may leave kids with him and have a mini spa day.