To be put off by friends endless 'selfies'......

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I have a friend who I've known for years, I've always really liked her. We don't see each other very often these days as she moved further away, but we have similar aged DC's so stay in touch via FB. She's asked me to meet up a few times lately and I've found myself putting it off.

I think the trouble is she seems to be incredibly vain. She takes very posed, very frequent selfie type photographs. I'm talking about 4 or 5 a week. Sometimes she films 'pop video' clips of herself miming or dancing to songs. She's a 34 year old housewife, moderately attractive - but even if she looked like Elle MacPherson I'd find it weird.

I have no idea why this bothers me, but for some reason it make her less appealing to me as a friend.

I would find it quite amusing and would look forward to seeing the next one to have a giggle at.

I know a woman that does this. You have described her perfectly.

However, whilst the woman I know makes me cringe - big time - Im pretty sure with her its insecurity rather than vanity.

Her husband recently left her and her selfies stepped up a gear.

Not to be unkind, but I've noticed that it's mainly the incredibly vain ones that seem to post endless selfies.
And then you get the endless. ""You look great"" and ""aw thanks babe" comments underneath the selfie.
In a way I feel sorry for them... because it must be sad to need constant validation/ approval of how you look.

I have a friend like this. I knew her for years before she discovered Facebook, and I would never have said she was vain. I see her every few months, and she seems the same nice normal person she's always been, but her Facebook persona is different. On Facebook she's quite boasty about her kids, and just bombards us all with photos of herself, sometimes with kids, sometimes alone. A new photo every day or so. It drives me mad but she's a friend so I don't want to block her. Just wish I could block the photos!

I think that sort of thing is pretty childish really but each to their own...it's her timeline and she's not harming anyone.

Regarding you saying she's insecure OP. Yes, from what you've said she does seem so but then again so do you.

To put off meeting up with her because she likes to take photos of herself, is a pretty silly reason unless you're somehow unhappy in yourself and you think she looks better than you perhaps?

OP I know what you mean.
I get really irritated by these, and by all the "I'm so blessed" ("look at my beautiful life and weep").
But.... I do wonder why it bothers me. I mean it doesn't hurt me really does it? I could just not look.
So, I have every sympathy but perhaps you (and I) are BU.

But the thing is, I can't not look, because I have to scroll through her pages of photos to read other people's statuses, so it's unavoidable. I think Facebook should have a way of separating photos from writing, so you can choose to read and see photos, or just read.

Jolly you can block someone's posts from your newsfeed