To expect DH to lift a tiny little finger in the house? He works full time quite a stressful job, 10-12hour days. Whenever I ask him to do something, I have to say, Could you do me a favour and take your underwear that I've washed off the line please. Or, your dog has been a bit down today and I have not been able to take him for a walk, would you take him out? There has to be a story behind it. He always sighs heavily and IF he does it, tells me how knackered he is. On the other hand he wants to watch telly, with me or it's no fun, until midnight, then is on Facebook and some mother mindless fone game in bed for another hour, sets his alarm for 7am - honking car alarm no less - so baby and I wake as well, though chances are we'd already be awake as we co sleep and baby wakes at 6am. I'm also exclusively breast feeding a 6 month old who can be quite a Hangul, just started solids so windy and crampy at night. He never gets up for baby, says he doesn't have a boob, when I say he doesn't need feeding, he tells me he'll only do sonething wrong (like wake baby properly by playing with him!!) so I should just go see. I do go, for the baby's sake. I also clean do laundry cook etc during the day, I don't catch up any sleep. I've started doing a few Sunday shifts at work and left him home with expressed milk and baby, to let him see what it's like, but of course it's a fun day, it's only one day, the bed doesn't get made, I leave him washing to hang up, usually his socks, but never gets hung. Baby doesn't get changed from last nights pjs. Baby routine out the window. Tells me my life is so easy, he'd happily trade places with me and is don't appreciate what he does for us. The past 6 months are the hardest he's worked in his life. He's finally realising his potential. However in the eight years we've been together I've always worked harder therefore earned more, he used to say I should contribute more because I earn more. I worked up until a week before my elective c section to make sure we would have enough to tide us through 6 months of maternity leave. I was also doing long days and I do understand the self pity that sometimes comes with being overworked (12 hr casualty shifts). I just feel so disinvested in my relationship and quite resentful. I have tried to talk to DH and I know he feels resentment toward me as well. But he truly feels there is no need to do anything when he comes home, and I do feel quite the slave. Am I feeling too sorry for myself? Should I just suck it up because I'm a mom now and that's what I have to get used to? I do appreciate him, and try to show it but he doesn't see it. Forgive the rather lengthy monologue - hope it doesn't come across as too much of a whinge!