To wonder of If I have made a massive mistake sometimes?

[KeepOnPloddingOn]

Is it normal to question your rlship? I do love my dh, but we do seem to bicker a lot...

I sometimes think I have rushed into having babies and settling down to simply 'do the right thing' and be happy. Which I am, I might add. My dd brings me immeasurable joy... But I do worry dh and I are just not for eachother when we argue.

AIBU ? Is this just normal when young and in the midst of babies and pregnancies and dh working long hours....

It sounds normal to me. Keep at it, respect each other, and share equally. :)

I feel exactly the same way. 2dcs, one who is just 7 months old.

I imagine leaving DP and I know he's unhappy (which is crazy because I'm wonderful!). We have actually agreed to a truce - to keep in trucking for the next year and assess situation then. We kind of need each other's help - and income - too much at the moment.

In the meantime I get my romance fix by watching tv shows about wedding planners. Every little helps..!

weather yes I agree, though not sure how exactly? But it does seem hard...

Parent that makes a lot of sense!!!

Thanks everyone, I am genuinely shocked how many feel this way. You have no idea the relief I have !

william I hope you guys get the right outcome for you in the end :)

Aw thx KeepOn. So many of my friends feel the same way I do -- just tracking along, biding time but the love is gone. I think at my age - midforties- a really livening and healthy relationship is rare than you think.

william yes, I have friends who feel similar and we are I. 20s!

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I must admit I am in love with dh and we are in a good place again now, so it is up and down. I just feel relieved to know our relationship is not doomed forever because I feel this way at times (he must do too)

I think sometimes I get annoyed and vice versa as I do with the children, but its only very short lived. You have keep having fun is the key

Life is hard when kids are young. Try to get out together. When you are tired your relationship goes on the back burner, but a couple of hours out of the house together, helps to recreate the intimacy that is lost in the day to day mundane life with small children.

Thanks :)
We are going to go out in the next week or so now we have a bit more time together ...

Oh I have considered divorce several times since having children- we have three year old twins and there have been times I could have murdered my husband, quite frankly. Sleep deprivation and the stress of having young children is so incredibly hard. We love each other very much but I am relieved not to have to go through this stage again (sticking with 2!)

I hope you have a nice evening out together OP