Would this annoy you?

[Beaverfeaver2]

It's silly really but a member of the family is very wealthy, and hides it exceptionally well. Lives very frugally and comes across as quite tight for cash in the way they portray themselves.

My parents do not know just how wealthy they are and believe that they are struggling and give extra money/stuff and support to them.

It shouldn't upset me as it's up to my parents what to do with their money and who they choose to support.
But it has upset me recently when me and DH are putting off starting a family as we are struggling financially. I don't nessecarily want help and support, it just seems wrong for this other family member to be accepting of such stuff when they don't need it.

I know I'm being silly, it's just been playing on my mind and needed to get it off my chest.

Would it look like sour grapes if the parents know the OP likes to be independent and not always need help?

It could only be jealousy if she's needy and demanding.

fideliney I think your right about it coming across as sour grapes.
I don't want that.

I want a family, but don't want to start until we are stable financially, and as a grown woman I don't want parental help to do so.

So why even mention it in the context of this thread?

Why would you feel stupid Beaver? The person would have lied to you then, hardly your fault.

And the reason why they haven't told your parents is because it'd stop their current fleecing project.

Different to it being kept private because it's to do with money and vulgar not on to talk about in polite company.

Yes it would annoy me - your brother/sister is being dishonest. But if the truth outs they can say, 'Well, I told Beaver I was doing ok... I never lied.'

I'd tell my parents.

Do your parents actually know you are putting off starting a family due to your finances? Or do they think you are quite happy and doing well as you don't have children yet so don't have the associated costs?

I know you want to stand on your own two feet, but there is a difference between going cap in hand to them, and being honest with them about your situation and accepting any help they may offer.