to have told DH to remove this from his twitter feed?

[FishWithABicycle]

DH is pissed off with me. I looked at his twitters earlier and saw that he had posted a tweet referencing genitalia in a way I thought was inappropriate (it was about accidentally taking a photograph if one multitasks simultaneous texting and urinating - yeah gross I know)

I said he should delete it because (a) it's gross and (b) there is reason to suspect that random non-friend strangers may soon be seeking out his twitter feed because a recent good thing in his creative career means that more people will have heard of him soon - not like he's famous or anything but just getting slightly more well known in his field - and I think there shouldn't be recent references to genitalia on his twitter feed when these strangers do pay a visit.

He has deleted it and is pissed off with me for imposing censorship on him, saying that there's no point having twitter if he can't be honest on it.

Is he right or am I?

You really shouldn't be telling another adult what to do.

People often post to social media without thinking so rather than seeing it as you 'told' him what to do, I see it as you explaining a negative outcome. I've done the same thing with my husband when he has posted things and he's said 'oh yeah I didn't think about it like that' and removed it.he didn't have to, same as your husband didn't have to.....

Do you also do as you are told to op?

The thing to do is to run a separate account under your real name (linkies to professional news etc) and a nickname (jokes about cock shots).

& yeah I do think its her business - the same as him putting a UKIP poster in the window is her business.

Kif is spot on. I am petrified to use Twitter as it's so public!

I think DH is right. Although I stand to be corrected depending on what the tweet actually said.

I do not believe this is comparable to a UKIP poster in the window!

Fair enough to remind him how it might look, in the future, but telling a grown man that he has to delete something from his account is a bit much.

Agreeing that he needs to create separate professional and personal accounts, if he wants to be able to relax. That's up to him to work out, though.

Why do people put pictures of thier genitals on social media sites.

Not speaking for everyone but I suspect 75% of the population do not want to see cock pictures.

I used to talk to people online, the moment they sent a cock picture was the moment that person was blocked.

The tweet doesn't sound too bad to be fair! It is up to him what he tweets isn't it? You're not his mum.

Oh yanbu! He should know that his social media accounts are very important re his career! I can't add a lot of people I know in rl as some of them will post awful/rude things and I can't be constantly deleting things.

You really shouldn't be telling another adult what to do.

Surely by saying that you are telling another adult what to do

I agree you were right to suggest he deleted it, so many employers/potential customers snoop on social networking (not saying its morally right but they do)

A lot of people don't realise how dodgy it can be until someone else makes them realise

MrsW - I don't think you know how twitter works.

Other people's tweets do not appear in your timeline, unless you retweet them. You also cannot delete other people's tweets, even if they mention you.

By that, I mean your own personal timeline - so people who follow you won't see posts by other people you follow but they don't.

Other adults tells me what to do.

Laws are made by people.

Oh the grief of fucking Twitter!

I've posted about this at the time, ds3 was playing football for the school, he was captain and me, ds1, my Dad and dh were watching.

DS1, then 18 earlier this year posted a negative and shitty tweet about the school we were at. That tweet was noticed by the Head of that school and ds3 got a grilling about it and tols to tell ds1 to delete it, thats thd shortened version.

A lot of palaver ensued .

You did the right thing OP.

does he have to ask permission to leave the table , its up to him what he writes

"You need to delete that from twitter"

"Erm....fuck off"

That's the way the convo should have gone.

You did him a favour. I'm not on social media but I stalk people on various platforms obsessively (I'm a recruiter, not just nosy). If a future client or employer does the same, it would be a very expensive and embarrassing mistake to have made.

The op is advising her husband

Not treating him like a child

Hes not thinking about how the post could affect future business and how people portray him.

So the op is telling him what it looks like to others.

Shes looking out for him

Are you his mother?

It is up to him what he puts on his twitter. If my dp decided to dictate what I put on mine, he would be told where to go with his controlling ways, and come back and talk to me when he is prepared to treat me as an adult and an equal who is capable of making decisions.

Or, depending on my mood, go and fuck yourself you wanna be controlling tosser.

OP is not BU, she is giving invaluable, and free, PR advice.

People's stupid tweets are regularly ridiculed all over the internet. Google 'Gemma Worrall'.