To wonder, as a bloke, why sexist lads still seem to attract women

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I'd really hate this to sound like a 'Nice Guy' whinge, but I still baffles me as to why some girls & women are drawn to this type.

I wouldn't give a sexist idiot house room for even a day but I hate when guy describe themselves as 'nice guys'. They're usually the sort to work themselves up into purple faced frenzy over the injustice of the girl they fancy not reciprocating their feelings.

It's depressing isn't it.
Because it's a pattern they know, their dad was like that and well, he's there dad and mums

I know a woman who has to get up early to get the kids up, weigh (!) her husband's porridge, cook it. She cooks all the meals, does all the housework, all the childcare.

She's the same age as me (mid 30's) but it's like peering into the dim and distant past when she talks of her daily routine.

I think a lot of people, men and women, re-create the relationship they saw between their own parents.

As Helpys just said!

Also, the phrase 'nice'.....it just reminds me of afternoon teas with great aunts or christening parties.

If you go out for a meal and it was 'nice' - to me, it means nothing special but perfectly acceptable.

I assume that they don't know any different, ie their dad was sexist and that is their model of a man. Even if they think that they don't want a man who is sexist like their dad, they may end up with one who is just less sexist and think job done. IYSWIM?

Ffs
'He's their Dad and Mum's ok'
There's also an element of protection and status. I was brought up in a naice MC home, the idea that I'd chose a man who'd punch someone for me or 'have my back' just wasn't on my shopping list. Sadly for lots of young women that's not the case.

I wouldn't give a sexist idiot house room for even a day but I hate when guy describe themselves as 'nice guys'. They're usually the sort to work themselves up into purple faced frenzy over the injustice of the girl they fancy not reciprocating their feelings.

Agree. And they are usually very vocal about being the nice guy and nice guys finishing last and being 'friend zoned'

I mean, no possibility that these women just arent into you?

Hint- if you're a nice guy you dont need to point it out to people. It's obvious.

interesting............. I agree that labelling yourself as a 'nice guy' when looking for love is a bit too much. I'd say let me be the judge of that! ykwim!

I went out with one self-confessed nice man and he had a bit of a martyr complex and he had some sexist views (ie that his xw had cost him a comfortable retirement, not that having 3 kids had cost him) so, 'nice' or guarded with his real opinions, I don't know.

I never set out to hurt people, I'm generous to my friends, I'm good humoured and interested in people and what's going on around me, but I'm in my forties and I bet 90% of those 'nice' men would look over my shoulder at the younger women behind me. Nice shmice. would does it mean.

They are confident- in my opinion arrogant but there is a fine line between the 2.

Seen as exciting - when your around a guy like that who knows what could happen.

Know how play women - They know how women tick it's not uncommon for them to have many women on the go.

Goodlooking? - if they are good looking, people tend to overlook other flaws.

Also don't call yourself a 'nice guy' firstly you don't want to be that man someone 'settles' for and also as soon as you say nice guy women will lose interest thinking you are one of those whiners.

Personally I feel sorry for those into arseholes just hope the excitement is worth the trouble.

yes, just seconding opinions further upthread, 'nice' isn't about treating your little lady right, a nice man values things like compatability and equality and compromise and good humour and give and take in a relationship.

Ime a lot of 50 something men lament the fact that younger beautiful women don't priortise their 'niceness' over the youth and good looks of men decades their junior. That's not niceness. It's kind of deluded. :-/

If you visited a male dominated site you'd probably get many of these posts but in reverse.

My OH isn't sexist but we both laugh at the "make me a sandwich" thing. I find his dominance sexy.

In the begining they are tough on everybody else but very nice to you which makes you feel very special. You are the only one on the planet who can soften the tough guy.

I hate this type now but i always hated the clingy ones too.