to have made my 8 year old go to school even though my six year old is off ill.

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Because my 8 year old ds1 thinks I am. He ended up going through the late door because he was so determined not to gp to school. My ds1 has had a lot of time off sick this school year. Most of the time its been genuine with chest infections and other genuine illnesses. Very occasionally he has fooled me though which I have realized too late - gone nine oclock! His six year old brother however hasn't had a days illness all year. He's been ill such as colds etc but I mean he's still gone to school. Today he had to be woken up (unusual) didn't want his breakfast (unheard of) and complained of feeling poorly and having a sore throat. He laid down on the sofa as soon as I'd got him up. His throat is very red and sore.
From then on ds2 insisted he was poorly too despite just polishing off a good breakfast and making a start on getting dresses. He was so insistant he was poorly too. He felt sick apparently. I ended up dressing him and insisting he goes to school. He ended up being late going through the office. But as soon as he got out of the school he ran into the school!

If he's not really ill then he has to go to school. Why would you be unreasonable to send him?

YANBU your 8yo doesn't need a day off school. he's not ill hes just jealous that 6yo gets to stay home.

A bit tongues in cheek! Apparently I'm.the worse mummy in the world.for making him go to school when he really is poorly! All this fussing made him late. Ds1 said I can't go now I'll be late! So he was late!

If they don't have a temperature that can be controlled with calpol they stay off. Otherwise they go. I wouldn't keep DD at home for a sore throat, she would be fine as soon as she saw her friends.

How terrible you are making your total well DS1 go to school

I have had this a lot, with my two, and with a similar dynamic, DD1 who is 8 won't go to sleep and just messes around in bed until all hours. Not a lot I can do about it, since I cannot make her sleep. However every so often she gets sent home from school feeling mysteriously sick and with a temperature which I cannot detect. She then stays at home for the rest of the day, and she is fine at home. I get really cross with her, search a bit deeper and find that there is something at school, or an after school club she does not feel like going to. However, since it is the school sending her home I can't very well tell them I am not going to take her home.

So if she kicks off when DD2 is genuinely sick, she get a firm no from me and a reminder of all the time she has had off.

I am surprised that I have not had a letter warning me of DD1's attendance yet.

See if they make a "miraculous" recovery at ten past nine mine go to school then.

You only need to take them in once at half nine and explain the the office staff that they were faking illness - guarantee they won't do it again.

Mine need to have a proper fever to stay off - sore throat they get calpol and sent in.

I have to admit its 955 and I am wondering if I did the right thing. Maybe ds1 was on to him. I've never had to battle to get ds2 to school before. I think he caught me offguard! On the other hand he isn't himself!

She is usually just tired.......

DC1 does this. DC2 is rarely sick and is quite hardy so shoulders on even if unwell. Whereas DC1 is ill quite a lot. It's got to the stage that the school will ring me (out of earshot of DC1) and say that DC1 is feeling unwell. I ask the school for their opinion but 9 times out of 10 I will say that DC1 has to stay for another hour and if they are still ill I'll collect DC1. I've never been called back after the hour. The school are wise to DC1.

However if DC2 was sick is be there in a shot as DC2 would be genuinely ill.

You can take children into school at lunchtime as well. We've had the situation where DD1 woke with a bad headache. DH kept her off (sent the other 2 in, though!) and she woke about 11am and the headache had cleared. DH gave her some lunch, made sure she had a decent drink (she gets headaches if she's dehydrated) then took her into school for the afternoon session. School were fine with it.

Mind you, DD1 once went into school and popped into DD2's classroom to tell her teacher than DD2 had vomited through the night so would not be in. Poor ol' DD1 was then sent home from school at lunchtime as she began throwing up!

Very occasionally he has fooled me though which I have realized too late - gone nine oclock!

You should drag him there no matter what the time once you'd found out he was fooling you!

I think the fact that your DS2 isn't eating is sign enough that he should not be in school, especially since he seems to enjoy his food normally. Your DS1 was very much just trying it on, well done you for seeing through it.

Really lasttango? I've always considered it too late by then. Especially if he's not in his uniform

Actually I would keep my children off with sore throats because I have suffered horrible bouts of tonsillitis throughout my life it is always bacterial and always needs penicillin I have never in my life just had a sore throat it always tonsillitis .

It's really not surprising, is it? One gets to stay home and the other one, forgetting how horrible it is to be sick, has to go to school. My sister and I just to bicker terribly when one got to stay home.

But he has to go and YANBU. He just needs a bit of extra TLC.

It's never too late to take him into school, surely. What about for doctors appointments etc - do you give your DC the whole day off?

I would take him whatever the time tbh. Yes he might still be marked as 'absent' on the register but for him, he will have been at school so the message will drop.

And I also have refused to come and collect a dc that I thought was fine.
Our school has being ringing parents at the drop of the hat and I make a point if asking them clearly what is going on to make my own judgement call.
On the top of it, being ill means being in bed with no TV/music/book in my house so it is a big deterrent too.

If I wasn't really sure if my kids were unwell or not I'd give them an hour and if they had completely perked up I'd take them into school after that. That way they both know that you take them seriously when they say they feel ill, but also prioritise education as soon as you know they are okay.

Iwill feel free to take your Dd back to school! I work in a school and we have had parents do that before, take their child home and then realise that they are either faking or exaggerating and bring them back.

davinci same here! when I was little and ill I was only allowed to lie on the sofa with a quilt. Getting up for the toilet only. And food/drink was plain like toast and water. Even now, I only have the day off work if I'm too ill to do anything but lie on the sofa! I felt very guilty when I was signed off for an extra week by the hospital to recover after being an inpatient, and by the end of the week I was up and about.

YABU to allow your DS the day off if he fakes it until 9 o'clock - as another poster says, you should take him to school and explain to the office that he was faking illness, I guarantee it'll be the last time you'll need to do it!

Ds2 refused to get dressed for school once. I packed his uniform in a bag and took him in his pjs. Yes he was a couple of minutes late but he never did it again.

You need to be on top of this now or in five years you may have many more issues with school refusing.

My boys are 7 & 5 and whilst it's hard taking just one into school (with a bit of a protest), it's also quite nice on the one who's poorly to get a bit of special treatment and time with Mommy/Grandma etc. (assuming the sick child is actually sick)