To think my friend's Facebook profile photo is a wee bit...odd?

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Yes, I literally have NOTHING more important to be thinking about

My friend has two DDs, 11 and 8. She regularly posts photos of them and of the three of them out and about on FB, and it's lovely to see what they've been up to.

She has recently changed her profile photo to a pic of just her and her eldest daughter. Youngest not included. There were photos of younger DD taken in the same session (other photos posted to an album at the same time) so not as if she has suddenly turned camera shy.

I'm sure she has a perfectly logical reason that I can't think of but AIBU to think it's a bit odd, when you have two children and all your FB friends know you have two children, to only include one of them in your FB profile pic? Or is this not at all unusual?

Please answer, or I simply won't be able to sleep a wink tonight!

My guess would be that she used the photo that she (your friend) looks best in, regardless of only having one DC in it.

I have a lovely friend who does this. She has a son and a daughter but looking at her FB you would think she only has a daughter. It doesn't bother me that much but a mutual friend gets upset about it. I suppose I'm a bit guilty of that too as most of my FB posts are DS2 related as he has severe autism and I know friends want to hear any good news or things he has done. I always post about DS1 if he does something notable too though.

Didn't think of that!

Maybe she will just alternate them? I wouldn't really say it's odd unless all her pictures just include one daughter and not the other. I think YABU, hope this aids your sleep.

What koala said!

It is a very nice photo (of both of them), so maybe you've nailed it.

passmethewineplease I'll sleep even better if you pass ME some wine

Yep, Koala has it.
Plus I think she isn't too worried about it - the 8 year old probably doesn't care.
I post lots of pictures of DD, very few of DS1 and almost none of DS2. It has nothing to do with how I feel about them and if anyone else thought that I would be a bit

If you looked at my FB photos you would think I had 2 children, not 3. DD1 hates having her picture taken, let alone put up for everyone to see. Maybe your friends eldest is the same.

Oh god I do this all the time.
I have 3 DC, the only one who enjoys having her picture taken is DD1 so most of my profile pictures are of me and her. The biggest criteria of profile picture selection is my beauty and good pictures of me are as rare as hen's teeth.

I don't love DC2 more than the others though, you're over thinking it.

Yeah, I'm clearly overthinking it. I think it's just because the profile picture is the one that's "out there" IYSWIM - if an old school friend found her on FB they might assume she only had one child. I just felt a bit fleetingly sorry for the young one.

Obviously I'm over-identifying with the younger daughter - it's probably symptomatic of some deep childhood trauma I've buried

Dolally I explained all that in the OP (and it's the younger DD missing, btw).

Over thinking isn't bad.
Sometimes it's the only thing standing between me and actually doing something useful.

I have no pictures of me and both children lookig the same direction and all with eyes open and not grimacing . So I just choose the one that I look best in. Then alternate occasionally.

You should see my SIL's. Her baby dc never features, it's always her which is fine, but she has messed with the image to make herself look slimmer (elongated eyes and face - very odd). And the picture is always taken at such an angle so that you can see her boobs. She revels in all the "you look amazing" comments...

I put the nicest photo of me on.

Sometimes dd is in it....sometimes the dog is

For my fb profile I've had pics of us as a family, of both my dc, of just my dd and of just my ds at varying times. It all works out in the wash.

For at least a year, my younger child nearly always refused to be photographed, and always refused to have any photos put on fb. He's still a bit camera shy.

Lol I just went and changed mine as the main one was of dd and the insert was of me and dd. None of either ds so I put a recent one up of younger ds and dd

[gri] Pag. That's my life in a nutshell.

manchestermummy I could not be arsed to go to that much trouble. My profile pictures are usually from photos taken on holiday so I'm wearing sunhat, sunglasses and holding a drink ie as little of my actual face visible as possible.

LadyNexus SelectASpaniel is infinitely more photogenic than I am.

Or even

Not odd really ,I have 2 kids and at this moment have my youngest as my profile picture. I liked the photo. If it's a picture of her and her daughter then maybe she thought she looked better in it than all the rest or someone commented on how alike they looked In that pic.

See, I'd feel guilty if I had a photo of SelectASpaniel as my profile picture because I'd worry that SelectACat might develop an inferiority complex.

(What? That's exactly the same. And of course she'd know. What, do you think she's some kind of oblivious animal?)

i have diffo pics of my children on my phone
depending on how funny or whatever the pic is

My eldest (28) keeps pointing out that I do have children, whenever I post another picture of my dog,( we camp all over the country and I like pictures of my dog enjoying herself in different locations).

The Cat (aka she who must be obeyed), doesn't care either way.

My youngest hates her pictures being used by anyone but her, so going off my other DD's photos, you would think they exclude her, but they just respect her wishes.

I agree that she's probably used the pic she looks best in.