to think these shoes are adequate for urban/suburban daily wear?

[WoodliceCollection]

www.clarks.co.uk/p/20353603

My ex is very emphatically convinced that they are not. To the extent of following me down the street shouting about it when I dropped daughter off wearing them. I bought them from Clarks on the basis that they were normal school-style shoes, obviously not for use in heavy rain or mud, or hiking up mountains, but ok for wearing e.g. to shops.

(Backstory- ex has a history of being controlling and slightly abusive though not seriously, he is in therapy for issues relating to this though it doesn't seem to help. I am not sure to what extent he is finding something to try and be controlling about- the rest of his complaints include demands that I bring a selection of shoes to his home every time daughter visits as it is 'not worth' him buying wellies; refusing to see our daughter unless I engage in this kind of discussion, etc. He is opposed to most 'girl' style items, so would not be happy with any similar alternative, but daughter refuses 'boys' shoes and I do not feel comfortable with forcing her to wear them against her will, plus she needs ones she can manage that are not lace up.)

Look like normal school shoes to me

My DD has those. They're perfectly fine.

Oh, OP . Of course you are not being unreasonable .

He sounds more than a little odd, the shoes are just normal school shoes

He is trying to continue with his controlling behaviour. He is an eejit. Ignore his shouting. Reacting to it will feed his need to be in control. They are perfectly acceptable shoes. You know it, your daughter knows it and secretly he knows it too.

They're fine...he needs to buy more though as they're not enough for a whole weekend. He sounds like a twat. I hate this thing many Dad's do with the asking for clothing all the time...frigging buy some!

YANBU he is a pillock, hence why he's your ex I suppose.

What is you DD supposed to wear in his world?

I bet every other girl in her class has those exact same shoes. I feel bad for you, he has conditioned you into doubting yourself. He sounds irrational and frankly, not very well. Is it really normal to have to take a selection of shoes to your ex's house because he won't buy his own daughter a pair of wellies?

I understand turning the other cheek, being the bigger pareent, etc, but i don't do well at pandering to other people's silliness. Give your kid time away from this silly little man, and tell him to NEVER EVER speak to you int the street like that again.

happy to hear he is an ex.

He followed you and your dd down the street, shouting derogatory comments about her shoes?

What a complete cock!

My DD had those too. They pretty robust I'd say. I usually have a pair of wellies too but she does wear her school shoes most of the time (as she has wide feet so hard to get others that fit so well).

They are lovely school shoes (my DDs have had these too) although I wouldn't expect them to be worn at the weekends with casual wear. But if your DD wants to wear them then, there's nothing wrong with that, she may just get asked why she is wearing school shoes by her friends.
Your ex IBU shouting down the street about it.