Pil visited yesterday, I thought the visit had gone well (things have Bern strained between on occasion) but mil phoned dp today and said that we take 17 month old ds out too much and we were going to make him hyperactive, also dp needs time to rest as he's very old ( he's 37).
We do take ds out lots but that is mostly because we all enjoy it and ds has lots of energy, ds is a happy toddler who sleeps well and developing well.
Ds goes to nursery 2 or 3 days a week, it's a Steiner nursery so there is lots of pottering about in the garden and playing with bits of wood, all very calm and relaxing. On the days ds is home with me we go to playgroup then go swimming or to the park or a local petting farm in the afternoon, we also often jjust go for a walk or find a field to sit in or sit by the lake, when we are out in nature ds just wonders about looking at ants and picking up sticks whilst me and dp sit on a picnic blanket and make the occasional "have you found a flower?" "look a plane" type comment.
Dp is off at the weekends, we tend to do a daytrip somewhere on one of the days and then visit family/friends go to parties and get the shopping done on the other day, we also usually have some time just sitting outside whilst ds bumbles about.
Ds sleeps for at least an hour ( sometimes up to 3 hours) at the weekend and he's in bed by 6.30, surely that's enough rest for a 37 year old man!
Ds has lots of lovely toys at home which he plays with in the mornings and evenings, we live in a 1 bedroom apartment so it's not as if we can just chuck ds out in the garden, we have a communal garden with a park and pool but using this is not seen as relaxing at home (according to mil).
Mil has suggested that for at least one afternoon at the weekends we stay at home so dp can sit on the sofa and read/relax whilst ds plays, I don't think it will be very relaxing.
Aibu to think that ds isn't energetic because we take him out so much, and that if we continue we won't make him hyperactive?