to expect some sort of contact?

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I'm the RP for our DD, he has sporadic contact, there is always something.

It's been seven weeks, he hasn't even so much as asked about our daughter.

He is shit. He didn't want to know when she was a baby, he has never actually looked after her properly, I am the one who deals with all the shit and he comes along once a month and plays with her for an hour if that and calls himself a Dad.

I'm sick of his excuses and trying to facilitate contact, surely if he gave a shit he'd get in touch? I've given him money to take her to the local softplay. I've told him the bus times..He does not have any excuse really.

Or am I expecting too much?

He doesn't live a million miles away btw, next town a bus ride away for about £2.50...

Then don't.

I had the same with my ex, I was constantly chasing him to maintain a relationship with DS. One day I decided enough was enough, he didn't change and hasn't seen DS for 3years but that's ok. DS is happy, sad am I.

He knows where you are, enjoy your time with DC and make your own memories

How strange he has just emailed asking if I'm free on Thursday, as it happens I'm not really but now I'll be made out to be blocking contact despite a day and a half not really being much notice.

You have done your bit. I would now either tell him a regular day and time which suits you he can see her if he wants, or tell him you need a weeks notice and then you will try to accomodate it and then leave it up to him.

I haven't see or heard from DS father since he was a week old, I tried to keep him involved but he chose to walk away. I have no realised its his loss, he knows where we are if he ever wants the pleasure of knowing his son. Until then we are quite happy the two of us.